Hi all! Anyone else notice your face has changed?
I’m normally such a smiley person. I still am, the moment I talk to people.
Let’s talk about your face, when no one’s around. Your normal resting face. I used to smile all the time. I just realized today, that when I walk around alone, I look very serious, like a lot’s on my mind, grumpy, unhappy. I lighten up immediately in company (but I guess part of that is an act).
I see my face has changed, since caregiving. A really serious, unhappy face.
I hardly have any stress from my mom these days. I hired in-home care. But you know, the problems never end. There’s always something.
I’m sure I’ll get my former, happy face back.
For now:
Venting is back.
I look kind of nerdy. Glasses.
Good day, everyone!
On a bad, frustrating day I look like this 🤮. I don’t know who’s been making portraits of me.
Another friend told me I looked “haggard.”! Good times.
Thanks so much for the much needed smile and laugh!! 😄
Before flying home I stopped in to visit family from husband's side. SIL took one look at me and declared "you look horrible!" two weeks, two weeks!
So, it’s 16 September 2023
at 20:23
“Change your life around, or…”
I’ll give you as a random deadline to get your act together: 16 September. The day after is Sunday, you can relax and give yourself a pat on the back.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it (I’m KIDDING, I’m not giving you a choice VentingisSNACK):
1. Focus on YOUR health.
2. Spend more time with people who are good for you.
3. Evaluate how you spend your time.
4. Find your passion.
5. Love yourself, even during tough times. 😍
It depends what you’re angry about. Trust me, some things you better get angry. Anger isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be a warning that you’re surrounded by the wrong people.
“Just wanted to take some time to hopefully encourage you.”
Thanks! 🙂
My happy face almost cracked.
A new acronym.
You will get yourself back, I am sure. Because you are wanting to, and searching and searching.
Your jokes lately were hilarious to me. I am almost ashamed to say, because they matched my mood lately.
If you want to feel better, balance your jokes out with some really upbeat and positive reading, music, shows, distractions of a happy nature. Even if some things seem silly, or beneath your intelligence, go ahead anyway and try picking something good to think about. There is good out there, right?
Yes, there is.
Imagining the hurricane and tropical storm is kinda scary, but I was thinking how clean the air will be after all that rain and wind. (if we survive,Lol.)
I don't know you, but have read a lot of your posts. Just wanted to take some time to hopefully encourage you. Life can get overwhelming, I know.
Rise above it!
All people experience pain and suffering in their lives. It’s only natural for these emotions to show up as expressions on our faces, consciously or unconsciously.
Often times, a person will have two sides. The face that they show to the world and the face they have in their private life.
Sometimes, it is easier to keep our feelings private because it’s too painful to share everything with others. It’s frightening to remove the cork to allow our bottled up emotions to run free.
We may fear losing complete control. Plus, we may have painful memories of when we did try to express our feelings and they weren’t taken seriously.
I look back (thank you FB) on pictures from 2013 and wonder if I'll ever smile like that again and if the light will ever return to my eyes. 2013 was when I began to be aware that something was wrong with dh and I started writing my secret file on my computer documenting things. It was also the year I became aware that I was in a bad marriage that I should have exited years earlier.
I live with consequences of my choices and my cowardice (because it takes a brave strong woman to walk out on a marriage, and I wasn't that woman). I look at pictures of me now and I look tired, sad, and worn out. And I wonder who I am and if I'll ever be that smiling person again.
Seriously...find something that makes you really belly laugh.
I watch America's Funniest Videos for an hour every week. I sleep so much better that night from the stress relieved by laughing.
I've recently started stealing a few minutes to watch short videos when I'm caregiving for my sister - especially when I feel frustrated with her and short on patience. A couple minutes watching fainting goats or funny dog videos works great to break the tension.
Laughing is good medicine to relax all those facial muscles. : D !!!
Meanwhile, while I help solve a big problem for my mom, due to someone’s dishonesty, I’ll also try to get myself back. Get my normal face back.
There are few honest, kind, polite people, who keep their word.
Congrats on leveling up to stage 4! Yay!
Beatty, I've smiled at so many people and had them not smile back that I'm starting to wonder if my lips don't turn upward enough from lack of practice. Yet I don't want to smile wide and risk looking like the joker.🤡