Good afternoon everyone. Gets to the coffee store at least 3-4 times a week. However every time I pick him up it’s poor him and I ask what can we do. I would be better living on my own. Their poa is activated and he is not going to be happy anywhere. I explain how most of the people there have no visitors and never get to leave. You still have a life. I don’t know how i am going to be when I get older but I know acceptance is the key to my own happiness, but I cannot make him happy. Anyway how have you guys handled the depression and the miserable attitude. Then I was at a meeting and a girl who goes to the coffee shop every once in a while said he is so depressed. I got a little upset because she doesn’t know what is going on. I apologized but I get tired of people telling you what to do when they are not in your shoes. Then she said this couple that’s always there wants me to be happy. Actually I really and I have found balance, they haven’t talked to me in months. I feel we evolve through all of this and people saying how I am feeling when they have no idea. Sorry little vent. But curious about how to deal with depression. Thank you
Sorry, but you have been thru a lot of emotional ups and downs. Do not ask him what u can do, you can't do a thing. Telling him he is lucky is good. Because he is. His son needs to sit him down and say "Dad, sorry this is how it has to be. You have a nice room, 3 meals a day, people u can talk to and activities you can join in. If u choose not to, thats on you. I have to work and Staff has her Mom to care for. Your in the best place u can be. Feel lucky u still have some independence. You can't have it all ur way, life doesn't work that way"
Good Luck in getting that across. 😊
Hopefully a friend
You have been been very understanding about Dad and how difficult it’s been for him to accept his “new life”. It’s not easy for any of us old farts to accept change. I honestly wish I had you in MY life because you are such a kind and caring person and a dog lover to boot. 😁 But, has it occurred to you that maybe Dad is putting on a show for everyone’s benefit? Saying how sad and depressed he is sure gets him attention, pats on the back and the “oh, poor little you” he wants. You can be very honest with him and tell him to knock off the drama. It’s time to stop treating him like the poor little guy he wants you to treat him as.
Love you lots. ❤️❤️❤️ Hugs!