both have advanced dementia and the care taker was hired during duress with out verification. She's not licensed in the state of OREGON, and seems to have an alternative motive.
We've caught her manipulating illegitimate finances by manipulation, and she's driving a 2012 Dodge on a limited salary! I'm smelling SCAM, and my folks are worth several hundred thousand dollars.
PLEASE ADVISE
Fortunately, for me, I knew my CG.
Their bank statement indicated unauthorized debits for fast food ($56) etc., and several others under $100. She's an excellent care giver/ both folks are barely ambulatory and incontinent. She's either a scam artist or a God sent. She's discussed 'her attorney' several times which is alarming, and claims to be suing he dentist for breaking a inaccessible drill bit tip off in a molar canal during a root canal procedure. Just the mention of 1. new car 2. attorney and 3. current legal litigation are all RED FLAGS.
We still don't know if the unlicensed care people that were hired by a younger son were responsible for the thefts. OR if demented MIL had possibly given the information away over the phone.
Also, maybe report her for the manipulation you said you caught her doing, but you did not clarify exactly what you caught her doing.
When you hired her, did she come from a legit org and given you a certified CNA assurance? Bonded? If you hired her form the org, then ask for another one and report what you think she's done to the director. We had to fire an org because one of the girls turned out to be Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. I know she also stole something from us too. I wouldn't put it past her if she went on my computer, desk, credit card statements, drawers, etc.....
Finally, I turned to my Christian girlfriend at church who trains CNAs and has her own company and the 2 girls she sent to me were from God. Totally trustworthy, caring, attentive, loving. One couldn't ask for more. It was the Lord taking care of my parents thru these two girls. So, there are trustworthy and loving CG out there. Check with your own church [if you go to one] or call other Christian churches in your area. Lots of them have ministries just like the one I had. God Bless you and help you with honest, loving, and trustworthy CG.