smeshque Posted January 2018
Believing caregivers, how do I reconcile that scripture says to put others before me whereas the secular world says put me first?
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Proverbs 17:22
The "Golden Rule" of Leviticus 19:18 was quoted by Jesus of Nazareth (Matthew 7:12 , see also Luke 6:31) and described by him as the second great commandment. The common English phrasing is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
So though I was tired and weary, yet my father through no fault of his own, re prostate cancer and dementia had wet the bed at 01.30. This despite pull ups and mattress protectors. I smiled and assured him it’s fine cleaned him up, put fresh pull ups and Pyjama’s on him, removed the sheets wiped the bed down and remake it. Then started washing at 2am - most nights .
I’d like someone to understand the embarrassment or frustration and confusion re lack of sleep of multiple needs to go per night and treat me with compassion - so that’s how I’ll treat others. I don’t expect the same treatment should I ever reach that point - but - at least will have dealt with others, as I’d like to be, if I were living their poor quality of life.
Makes it a a lot easier to deal with situations with a smile however tired if just think what would I like if our roles were reversed.
If I don't take care of myself long enough, then I am helpless in helping someone else, and am usually too low energy or cognitively jumbled to assist even if it is necessary.
Finding time to myself, in a peaceful environment(usually early hours of the morning) to write, read or exercise is something I've needed to do to function later on. If I lose that time, I feel like part of me disappears too quickly, and affects my entire day.
And the few people I talk to are my lifeline when times get tough, or I'm doing too much, and they help me out if I ask them to. They take my mind off the hard parts of my day, and they remind me of what I care about, instead of the worries that cycle in my head throughout a day. Talking about some of my worries has helped me acknowledge them to let them go.
LLama- DH does harvest our venison as well as some of our friends. The tribe here harvests venison for feasts and when they do they always bring us some as well. So we always have in on hand. Best meat for my family to eat. I grew up on it. Can't eat it now, but loved it then.
NHWM- Thank you for the kind words. Sometimes I get lazy and they may just get some tuna salad sandwiches. :)
It has been trying times here. I have not gotten much sleep in days. But I missed you all and had to stop by.
Long story short.
Cousins wife took kids and left him. Cousin turned to drinking and drugs. DH and I told him we have done all we can do for him. He cried out for help. DH told him get some mental health help. He is now in a hospital for evaluation, i am hoping they keep him a while, but I know for 3 days for sure.
DH told him when he gets out of there if he wants any more of our help he must prove he wants to change, no more lies and he must go to an extensive drug and rehabilitation clinic hopefully a 6 month one. We have been researching them. Mostly faith based ones.
If cousin does not do this there is nothing else we can do but wash our hands of him. We have tried helping him before and we are exhausted financially and emotionally.
So we shall see if he does this or not. The sad thing is, we are the only family left speaking to him, so he does not have any place to go, burned all the bridges and this bridge is on fire. He is not a bad person, just has had a bad life and makes bad choices. It is time for him to grow up and get help.
I do not know cousins future, or our part in his journey here on out. But we will do as the Lord guides us.
I sure am fighting these human emotions of being angry. But angry at who? I knew how they were, we were just hoping this time would stick.
We have had to clean out the house we rented them and I cannot tell you how upset I am about what they did to the house and what we found. And that they had the children living that way. And they were only there a short time?
But I had a potential renter and she has 2 children and is in nursing school and works part time. So we are hoping to pass on some blessings to her. Maybe all of this was just for her.
Much love to all my agingcare family. You all are always in my prayers.
“Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:”
1 Peter 5:6
(Hosea 10:12 NIV)
Your meals always sound so yummy!
My understanding is that grinding the raw wheat can be explosive; apparently grain dust has that capacity.
What do you use, and how do you do it? I'd love to know!
We made tamales today and I have venison corn soup in the crockpot.
I made homemade flour and corn chips for dip.
I chose not to make any pies as I have been making pies all week for customers and I just did not feel like making pies. DH is fine with that, so it's all good.
Others may be disappointed, but hey they don't live here.
I am so thankful that I am on the mend and am almost back to normal.
Mom is having a rough time, as she does this time of year. But we are getting through it, thanks be to God.
I wish you all a happy day tomorrow.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
John 3:16
The other stuff will prepare tomorrow.
Made me cry like a baby.
Merry Christmas everyone!!
Jesus came for you!
Insert - Yes, the number of autos involved jumped up to 69 total. It was 7:00 A.M.-ish, which attributed to the very horrific accident.
One time I lost a $20 bill after carelessly playing it in my unzipped purse! That was very dumb! Lesson learned.
I have a very sweet memory from that trip. You know how Williamsburg has all the cute shops for us to spend our money in. Well, I foolishly put money in my pocket in case I wanted to buy something. I didn’t feel like lugging around my purse.
The wad of cash fell out of my pocket! I was bummed and boo hooed to my husband about it. He said, “Well, sorry you lost your money but lesson learned about placing money in your pocket and I doubt you will do that again.” I admitted that it was a dumb thing to do.
I said to him, “Well, let me just check at the ‘list and found.’ He thought I was ridiculous for thinking there was a ‘lost and found’ and told me that no one returns cash.
So stubborn me, I told him that I was going to inquire about it. Sure enough, Williamsburg does have a ‘lost and found.’ I went. My husband was following behind and was too embarrassed to walk up there with me. So, I told him that I would go alone to inquire. He said, “ Well, don’t be too disappointed when they think you are crazy asking for the cash that you lost.” I said, “Have a little faith because there are still honest people in this world.”
Happy ending! Not only did I recover my money but I received a lovely note from the person who stated where they found the money. It was summertime and tourist season was at it’s peak! Crowded streets but one honest soul took the time to return it. You should have seen my husband’s face when he saw me walk over to him with a huge smile and my money in my hand!
Will do. I will remember everyone involved in my prayers. I was in Williamsburg many years ago. Fun trip! Oh gosh, my oldest daughter was only two years old then. The younger one wasn’t even born. It was a lovely family vacation.
Can you try to just force yourself to eat a saltine cracker or two before you take your medicine?You gotta coat your gut first.
That's so neat about your Mom singing so happily today to her new,old music she loves.What a sweet daughter you are to give her that and make her heart so happy.
Isthisreal and NHWM- that is one of our favorite verses as well. Working on something with that to go on our front porch as well.
On our living room wall I did 1 Chronicles 28:20, I painted it in calligraphy. It was a special verse for DH and I as we were coming to the decision to surrender our lives to Jesus.
Dad read it everyday when he was here. I will always keep it. I know that David was talking about the physical house of God, but we apply it to the church and the work of the Lord.
So cousin and his wife both lost their jobs. I am praying for them.
DH and I are at peace with letting them figure it out.
I have had a rough day of it managing pain.
The Dr had given me antibiotics and pain medication to take and normally I do not take prescribed drugs. They are making me super nauseous and super tired.
The antibiotic makes me nauseous and I cannot eat much with the pain, so it goes. I only take 1/4 of the pain med even though the prescription says 1-2. I can't even imagine what state I would be in if I took the prescribed dose. I can barely handle the 1/4 and in the day I take 1/8 depending on what I need to do.
But I am hopeful I will be back to normal in a few days.
Mom loves the Statler Brothers. So I ordered her one of their gospel cds. I was pretty useless today and I am so blessed it came today. Because I put it on for her and it was lovely. She was just singing away so joyfully. The Statler Brothers has always been a favorite in her life during hard times. This time of year is especially hard for her so I am glad to see her so happy. I even had to put it on repeat in her room so she could just listen to it all night, per her request. I will have to get her more of them.
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
John 15:13
Enjoy your beet soup! You will have a big crowd. Merry Christmas to you and your family.
Small world! I have that scripture framed in my foyer.
We like my daughter’s current boyfriend. Her old boyfriend was not respectful of her. Speaking of scripture, she ordered from Etsy, Cor. 13 and has it hanging in her living room. Paul was a beautiful writer.
I think that scripture speaks to her personally because her ex boyfriend treated her so shabbily. She said she wasn’t going to date anyone that didn’t have the qualities of that scripture. She has someone who is patient and kind like that scripture describes. I am happy for her. She kissed a couple of frogs before her prince!
You are right about my daughter asking for prayer. I think when I said that to her I thought she was taking a shortcut and asking me to pray and she wasn’t praying.
She corrected me instantly and told me that she always prays. I knew she did because we prayed as a family but you know how kids are when they go off to college. A lot of times they push prayers aside.
I guess I shouldn’t have told her that but it was one of those times I said something quickly without giving it a lot of thought and in my way reminding her that it is important to pray.
As parents sometimes we do see situations later where we could have handled a situation better. We try to do our best but make a few goofs!
No wondering if believers live here.