My sister can do more for herself and us than she is willing to do. She could get her own drink from the fridge and help fold towels, but she doesn't. And I had the worst week of my life with my job. I will be lucky if I keep it and don't get my boss fired in the process. Add my physical problems and mix up for a recipe for disaster. And no I can't get a caregiver. I am the caregiver.