She is 82 and lives with me. Searching for "and answer", I came upon this website. I'm feeling such relief at reading all the questions/answers/concerns/laments, that I needed to drop a note to express my appreciation! I've found a support community!
Best wishes to you.
I can't get her to stop doing any of the things that wear me down mentally, for example, I spoke with her last night and we had a good conversation. This morning while at work I had received several missed calls from the NH and by the time I saw these missed calls my stomach was turning with butterflies because I figured something must be serious. NO, it was Mom calling in a panic wanting to know where I was, if I was ok and had the "rent" been paid she said she hadn't talked or seen me in 2 weeks! I visited with them last Sat, my Husband visited on Mon and we've talked on the other days but she almost called me a liar..then tells me "I'm soo sorry, I won't bother you anymore, I'mm 88 yrs old, I just need you to understand. Well if she can say that much, maybe I'm wrong but if she can use logic to her convenince...why can't I??? Is it dementia or her control freak appearing..maybe both!
All I know is, I'm so tired nothing makes anything better and I'm all tapped out!
Ellens, my Mom too has terrible cramping in her legs and she also is always looking for a "magic pill" for everything. Mom has Neuropathy...poor circulation that is tied to her Diabeties and she has very low sight due to Macular Degeneration. Mom has smoked ciggarettes all of her adult life, she is 88 and refuses to stop smoking...ergo....further decline in her major ailments but no, she wants a pill.
This fourm has been a mind saver for me, I thank everyone for their words of wisdom and support. None of us are alone, when others just don't get it come to this website...we get it.