Continuation of previous unfisnished post: Today she had no urges and messed her nighttime diaper. Is this a sign of progression of dementia? Or just maybe something not agreeing with her? She usually can make it to bathroom in time. Lack of.sensation has me concerned, as this is one area I will not be able to handle if it is going to continue.
One thing you may find helpful is to have her on a bowel schedule; sit her on the toilet for at least 5 minutes (guidelines say 10) after meals and whenever she usually goes. It may not be continence exactly, but if you can form a new bowel habit it will save you a lot of frustration.