FOR THE LAST 3 YEARS IHAVE BEEN ACAREGIVER.FOR MOM FOR 2YEARS,SHE DIED DIC.24 2010.SHE HAD ALZHEIMER.MY SPOUSE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PARKINSON 3 YEARS AGO NOW HE IS IN THE LAST STAGE.VERY AGRESSIVE.FEW GOOD DAYS AND NIGHTS,BUT A LOT OF VERY SICK DAYS AND NIGHTS..IT IS GETTING WORST,DAY AFTER DAY.I DO NEED SOME KIND OF RESPITE BUT HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ANY BODY TO STAY WITH HIM.UNLESS IM THERE.
We now have caregivers helping out - just two days a week, but it gives me a break.
I know that you are trying to respect the wishes of your husband, but you have every right to protect your health and sanity. Try finding a few in-home caregivers that come highly recommended, introduce them to your hub, then hire them. You will not believe how just a few hours off will improve your mood....good luck