We are the pastors and close friend of a dear man (he is also my children’s godfather) who was put into a long term care facility by his son. This son is conservator but has emotional problems (has been on medication due to his own emotional issues) and has shut us out. We have been in his father’s life for over 30 years: I’ve worked for him, took care of him, etc.
It’s been at least 6 months and the son refuses to get in touch with us. We believe that because of this, his father has probably declined cognitively; because if he could, he himself would have reached out to us or had someone else do so.
He calls us his family and we miss him terribly. Is there anything we can do, or anyone we can talk to who can help us find out how he is doing?
Have you gone to the long term care facility to see if you can see your friend? Unless there is a ban on visitors for this person, maybe you can look in on him. I know the facility cannot give you any information regarding the health of your friend due to Federal law.
Chances are your friend may had declined to a point where he doesn't recognize anyone and visitors could cause this man to get upset, through no fault of the visitor.