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Hi Austin: Glad you are with us and sorry for your mom's passing. Glad she had some good words for you at the end. Just shows they know better, even if they don't want to acknowledge it until the last minute.

I here what you are saying about scams, but my heart goes out to those older people who are overwhelmed and hanging on through so many upheavals. It's always been this way, people preying on the elderly, but now they seem so much more able. Well, I hope there is a special hot place for them. Everyone deserves forgiveness, but could we just roast them for a few minutes or let them feel the pain they have inflicted before letting them off the hook?
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Cat~Lol!!! Sexy I am not, I am pear shaped, hahaha!! I does say that I feel confident enough to wear things I would never have dreamed of wearing and I am so enjoying that. Maybe it is a mini midlife crisis, but I have always loved the classic leopard print because it has always been available and never goes out of style. Even if I only wear it in the house while I am doing my "Risky Business" moves to my music, I don't care. Lol!! Can you imagine someone my age wearing a leopard print shirt and undies doing air guitar while cleaning the house...I love it!!!
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There isn't a pole in your living room is there Sharyn???? WOOT WOOT, you go girl, have fun and don't mess that blouse up with tuna cans.... !!!!!
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A pole...Lol!! I'm not that flexible anymore. My poor hubby would come home from work one day and find me wrapped like a pretzel around it. If I'm wearing tuna cans, hahaha, he would be calling the funny farm to reserve a room for me!!!
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Sharyn, we all deserve some respite at the funny farm, pole or no pole..... but would love to see the look on hubby's face!!!!!! Priceless..... no one that lives in our homes or knows we post on here would think most of us need more than respite..... we do get silly, but sure helps to laugh .... hugs to you lady, maybe you should take a pic with your new blouse and your new earrings and post it for your avitar..... from the waist up PLEASE !!!!! love ya
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Drive by hello, missing my KAW buddies. We've had another round of falls and multiple ER visits. Will try to catch up, n get back tomorrow. Hoping you are all well, love kimbee
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Do they serve meals and do the dishes at the funny farm? Sign me up!

Actually, I did sign up for a prepared, delivered meal for Thursday, from Hospice. At first I turned it down, because my sister is preparing extra and will send meals home with our son, but then I got to thinking about being here alone with Coy all day and thought a delivered meal would be a nice treat. Sis's meal will be for Friday. (She is an awesome cook.)

There were 30 people here for a home-made ravioli feast Sunday. That's a lot of people to cram into a rambler for a sit-down meal! Son Pat set up an additional dining room table in the living room, and two folding banquet tables in the family room and it worked out. I didn't do ANY of the cooking. It was good to have family around and to hear all the laughter and giggles. But I really felt subdued.

Coy slept through the entire event. Everyone there had seen him within the last two weeks, with one exception. When he was up to use the bathroom I asked his daughter if her mother would like to say hello to him, and I kept him awake while his ex-wife made her way into the bedroom. I thought it may well be the last time she could see him, so they had a very brief time together.

I hope that each of you in the US has a calm/exciting/restful/stimulating Thanksgiving, as appropriate for your particular needs.
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Jeanne: Bless you. Keeping you and Coy in my heart and prayers.

Thanksgiving for us will be a little lackluster. I was looking forward to cooking this year and having our son and his girlfriend over. I was really looking forward to a good game of tiles. We played this a lot when we visited Rick and Cyn and it's so much fun. I really miss it. Shows you what I will do to play tiles; cook a whole Thanksgiving feast for that time of fun after dinner.

Weill, Nick has to work much of the day, so he suggested we go out to eat. No problem; I can always cook a turkey and it's best to be flexible.

Wish I could get all of you around the table for a good game of tiles.

Happy Thanksgiving and make the best of whatever comes your way.

Love, Cat
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Our Thanksgiving will be on Friday. It may only be my mom, sis and I. Hubby is pulling a 12 hour shift that day won't be home til 8pm. I have to work Wed, Thurs, Sat., and Sun. My daughter and SIL are going to be here but because her in-laws are paying for their plane ticket out, they will be having the dinner Thursday with her hubby's family. The always rent a cabin in Arnold, Ca for Thanksgiving. I will get to see them but they not be able to eat with us Friday, there is just too much family for them to see in a short time. My son was going to come here but he has to be back at work on Friday so he won't be coming. Even if it is only 3 of us on Friday, I plan to do the works, with a 20lb. turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy,etc.!! We don't know what the next year holds as far as my mother is concerned for the holidays and I would rather make it as special as I can in present time.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone enjoy your families and friends.
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Good for you Sharynmarie. I like your attitude. It is what it is and we just need to make the best of it. I know have two turkeys in the freezer. One I bought while expecting to cook for TG and the other was on sale for 49 cents a pound and I just bought it. Duh!!!!!! No problem, I will cook them in time and freeze the left overs or the whole turkey. I have a killer recipe for Turkey Pot Pie and I love Turkey Noodle Soup. I will also check with the Food Bank tomorrow. I have 12 boxes of Turkey dressing to donate. If they need turkeys, they can have one of the two I bought. Hey, that makes me happy.

Hope everyone can have a good turkey day. Doesn't have to be on Thursday and most of all, it's just a time to be truly grateful.

Maybe we should just start posting things we are grateful for and acknowledge that no matter what is happening in our lives, we are fortunate in many ways. Sometimes I'm just grateful that I was born in the US. Didn't earn it, just happened that way. Think of all the places we could be; in Africa, Gaza, Syria, Iraq, Afghanistan; the list goes on. Worst case scenario, I'll be here and safe.

Wishing you all safety and love. Cat
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I'm grateful that the boss said that I can work half day on Friday (will pretend that I work all day so that I can have the afternoon away from home). I'm also grateful that he also gave me a day off on Saturday - which is our monthly caregiver's meeting. We have a guest speaker on Stress Management. ;) I was stressing for week that I will not be able to attend the monthly meeting (missed last month's). I tell you, God is watching out for me. He must really want me to attend this meeting. The meeting was SUPPOSE to be this past Saturday, the 17th. Instead, they moved it to this Saturday, the 24th . I was SUPPOSE to work this past Saturday(17th), but the bosses switched our Saturday schedule so I was off on the 17th and was suppose to work on the 24th. Now, I'm off on the 24th - and I can attend the caregiver's meeting...free breakfast, free lecture, free associating with other fellow caregivers and free lunch. I'm looking forward to it.

And Cat, I'm grateful that I'm a US citizen, too! Of course, if my people had their way, I will supposedly reject our US citizenship and embrace our heritage. I don't think so!!! You all Take care! Book
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Cat that is a great idea saying what we are grateful for each day-I am grateful my daughter and son will be able to be at the house for Thanksgiving-they both are off and have to work most holidays and I will be very gratful if the meal turns out ok. I am grateful for my friend and that he will be at my house on Fri.
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Cat, what a wonderful idea. I am most greatful for my family and friends. Our time together is always fun. Tomorrow will mark a mile stone for my husband and I. We started dating 40 yrs ago on the 22nd.(Thanksgiving). I only hope and pray for another 40. Yes being born in the US and having such a good life that many are missing is such a blessing. HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all of You!!!!!
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Diavalon12: Hubby and I will be married 40 years this coming March. I'm grateful for that too. I forgot to mention that my Granddaughter called to tell us that she got the internship she was hoping for. It's with an accounting firm and she will begin working there Dec. 17th and continue through the tax season. She is so happy and they are going to pay her $15.00 per hour.
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Cat, it seems we really do have a lot in common. Have a good one!
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Cat great for your granddaughter interships are getting harder to get-my granddaughter is working for a nonprofit and after a year she will get some money towards grad school.
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I'm grateful for hospice.
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Great idea Cat!! I am grateful for my job, so many still without work/losing jobs. I am grateful for my family...even though my mom is difficult, I am grateful she is able to be with us, still knows who we are, grateful for my children, that they are happy and safe, and especially grateful for my wonderful husband and friends.:=)!
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Tonight, I am grateful for good friends, warm weather, my kids - all the good things. (And limes for my gin and tonic, which is most tasty.) We sat out by the fire with another couple tonight and talked and laughed, and when I walked home, the sky was just clear and beautfiul and filled with stars. Tomorrow, my daughter flies in. I haven't seen her beautiful face since July. Makes my heart skip a beat in anticipation. I'm thankful for that too.
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Happy thanksgiving everyone!

Wow! I have so many blessings to be thankful for this holiday season. Sooo...

I'm thankful for my Doug Beth Jenny and Chris. I'm thankful for my big ford family and so very grateful that Mary is here and getting stronger every day! I'm grateful that our holidays will be full of love and sharing without the hate and meaness of the past couple of years.
Last but not least. I am so grateful that god thru me in the path of beautiful, loving, compassionate women who helped guide my family back to who we were. A family that for a time was shattered. You women were the glue that healed us.
Everyone hold close the ones who love you most. Such a precious thing. We fords wish you the very best thanksgiving, and so love each and everyone of you!!!! Lisa
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Hey girls! I met my great nephew for the first time tonite. He's 18 mths. I am so happy. He came straight to me and we had so much fun. After much thought my sil decided it may not be a good ideal to spring such a surprise on Mary and they told her they were coming in. She cried like a baby when she seen him. So wish our Alabama family could just pack up and move here. Miss them so much. I'm pooped. Lotsa black Friday shopping. It's been a difficult week. I tripped down the bus steps last week and twisted my leg. Thought it was ok, but now if I move my leg a certain way the pain in my knee is excruciating. So tomorrow I do nothing. May end up at er for xray by Sunday. We'll see. Hope everyone's holiday was magical.
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Hi Lisa, how's that knee? Thx everybody for sharing such nice sentiments and gratitudes. I am grateful to be plugging along. Mom needing constant help ea time she goes to the bathroom-about every 2 hrs all night long. Iv had a bunch of people n agencies in n out, following up, n not following up. much to keep up with, too much. I'm feeling, well, ADDish, n wish I had a sense of OCD control instead, ahh, wishful thinking! Hubby n I managed to nap n watch some Teepa Snow DVDs over the holiday weekend-we needed both. Book honey, being up q 2 hrs all night long is crazy-making:sending Xtra hugs n bigger buckets of compassion. Lisa, pls do that big loving family a BIG favor n get the Teepa Snow "the journey of dementia" one for Christmas, if not sooner. Buy on amazon or thru her name dot org. You HAVE to see this. It was about 3 hrs worth, but some stuff I sure wish I'd known WAY earlier on in this process. I promise it worth buying. I hope everyone is doing well, I miss you friends and sisters, hugs n luv, kimbee
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This is so similar to my DIL's situation and now, in November 2012, I am very curious if the plans worked, if the Social Worker came and if your Mom got moved out and the pills taken away? Here where I live I have been told there is a legal responsibility of the family to provide 'reasonable' accommodations and that prevents placing a loved one in a NH against their will. I don't know what to do and was hoping to hear how it worked for you. Thanks...you have had a very hard journey, I hope you got the relief needed.
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bellas, you will be very glad to know that Lisa was very successful in removing her mother from her home and disentangling her life from her. This thread has gone on for 2000+ posts because the entire story of the struggle is here -- and it has been a struggle! But Lisa, with the support of a wonderful husband and family, persisted and accomplished the objective. And several of us who encouraged her throughout the struggle have become cyber friends and the thread has expanded to include our stories, too. You might find it informative and inspiring to read the whole dang thread!
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Thank you 'jeannegibbs'...how sweet of you to respond to my questions :-) She was and is blessed to have had you and all the others that encouraged her to keep moving forward and 'Survived2' is blessed to have a loving husband/family that supported her. I will eventually pass all this on to my DIL whose mother is also an addict and planning on living with her daughter in a few years.
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Hi checking in! Finally have more help in place. Got mom back to dr yesterday-her bp was 80 over 40; no wonder she feels bad n falls down. But the low bp is a new symptom, so her dr feels like something is going on n has committed to getting answers for us. Home RN will be monitoring as mom does various things at home. I hope everybody is doing well and looking forward to a calm Christmas. Sounds like our thxgivings were not the best any of us have had except maybe yours Lisa-so glad you all are healing n having peace in your home again-finally. Judy ours was more like yours. And g-friend: so proud of u making that big special dinner and pic perfect pies (I'm impressed! U who said she can't heat up Costco frozen dinners! Sorry the boys acted up n put a damper on ur special family time. Hope Christmas will be better. Cat: what is tiles? Joan, hope u r feeling better, ur/our mom quiet, n daughter getting some help. How is G's son doing? Diavalon n book, austin n everybody else, are u all still here? Miss n luv u guys. Going to make myself a big pic plan of the things I hope to get done b/w now n Christmas. And Jeanne, thx for inspiring me to work on my many paperwork n filing piles-they drive me crazy, I can't keep up! I think I may switch as much as possible to electronic, way too much stuff comes in to stay on it all- but I have made some progress lately, so Jeanne, u help us in many ways! Think often of u and Coy, hope u r both hanging in there. Hope everybody will stop by n say hi! Don't want the KAW to drift apart! Next?...Kimbee
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Oops Sharyn, missed u, sorry, hope u r hanging in there! Bellas- welcome! I'm Using phone-hard to go back n forth on it w/o dumping message...
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Missed more-riz, beanie, anon-when did u become anon?? Punch, n everybody else? Hi! Check in? Kim
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I just wanted to mention that Coy passed away yesterday evening. I read Jeanne's Caring Bridge update this morning. God's blessings for peace and comfort.

Cat
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Jeanne, I am sorry to learn about your husband passing. Many hugs and blessings to you and your family.
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