Every night I am getting more and more anxious.My parents "temporary" stay with me seems endless. And there is nowhere in sight for them to live And they have no money and I don't have any to help them out with. Neither of my sisters can help either. I'm so scared something is going to happen to my father and my mom will have nobody to care for her And he has nothing in place . When I asked him to make a plan he said he was going to leave that in my hands! I am raising a family and I am finding more and more difficult To relax or focus on them. I'm finding myself hating my life And my home The place I always loved the most. I feel guilty for all the feelings I'm having..And I can't seem to turn them off I feel trapped. I really don't know what to do.
It makes me think of friends who are not thinking ahead. I have to do much more to plan for my own retirement as well.
-rose
Do your parents get social security? If they get that and nothing else, they may qualify for Section 8 housing or some other form of subsidized housing. If their pay is low, talk to someone about starting the application for Section 8. It is competitive and takes a while for applications to be approved, so it is a good thing to get started on right away.
Many people find themselves in the positions your parents are in and have to depend on subsidized housing. These are not housing projects, but nice apartments. Many are in senior communities. You'll have to get your parents to complete the applications (or at least sign them). If they are reasonably healthy, there is no reason that they can't be living independently.
Put it in your hands, my foot! That one would have made me mad.
There are agencies to help your parents... are they on Medicare? If not, then get that going for them... call your area Council on Aging and tell them your concerns.... after you have listed them.... it will help them to help you.... you have a lot to be concerned about... and I'm sorry, but I would tell Dad he has to participate in the planning.... it is not your job if he is capable of helping, or even doing it himself... just because a parent hands us something, doesn't mean we can't hand it back.....
The Counsel on Aging will direct you to other agencies... it will help you to not feel so powerless.... or so overwhelmed...
I appreciate that you reached out tonight... and there will be other replies also, later on, so come back and read and get you and your parents some help.... you are not alone.... we do understand.....let us know how you are doing.... we'll do all we can to help..... so , breathe, try to relax, there is nothing you can do at this time of morning anyway.... but you have made the first step in asking for help.... hugs across the miles to you....breathe.....