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Eek - can we lay off the forgiveness topic? This is a VERY sensitive issue for people who have been abused, and there is a lot of debate about whether forgiveness really solves anything. Some abusers take it as a free pass to carry on abusing, for one thing.

None of us knows the whole story here, and texarkana's mother might have done something *really* bad, something that any one of us would find difficult to forgive under ANY circumstances. And anyway, forgiveness or not, texarkana's mother is still in the house and still causing problems. Let's focus on solving that.
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TK ...Perseverance is right. The best course for your own well being is to forgive your Mom and put it behind you (even if she doesn't realize it or ask for it). If you didn't love your Mom, you wouldn't still be hurting over it. Forgive her, forgive yourself. Some things can't necessarily be undone but you can move past them. Move on, life is too short to suffer the way you are suffering.

Being responsible for another person's well being is difficult enough without the added weight of past hurt and pain.
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This thing she did sounds pretty bad, and her current behaviour sounds like no picnic either. I say: kick her out. Life is too short for you to give up any more of yours for someone who doesn't truly care for you.

No doubt she'll try to fight you and there will be ugly scenes and all that. Prepare yourself for it but stand your ground. Frankly, if she's well enough to take over your house, she's well enough to organize her affairs and live not-with-you.

Stay strong!
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Honey, you need to forgive your Mom. Clearly it is only hurting you to hold onto your anger. There are other options for your Mom. Also, you need boundaries with her. How is it that you are allowing her to run your home? Are there other family members who can get involved with her care?
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I hope you won't continue living this way. Look into hiring an aide to do what is necessary for your mother and while the aide is there you will be able to go out and do something enjoyable. You can contact the local office on aging to find agencies that can help both you and your mother.
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