I've finally come to terms with the idea that I can't do this by myself and my dad is probably ready for AL. I took a step today and visited one. there are no LTC beds available and she informed me that IL Medicaid is currently 8 mos behind before they get to processing an application. I am exhausted from the constant worry, the constant heartbreak of watching him, and the guilt when I have to leave him alone at night because I can't take anymore. My sister has been AWOL the whole time - sometimes I feel like dropping him off at her house and disappearing from this area forever and let her figure it out.
Blessings and hugs to you and your Dad ( sister gets a kick the pants!)
2) Get Dad on the waiting list of places you consider suitable
3) Start the Medicaid application process
4) For your own sanity, let go of things you cannot control, like your sister's decisions
5) Contact the Department of Aging for ideas of what you can do until Dad is settled in a care facility
It should feel a relief to at least have a decision made. I wish you strength as you go about implementing that decision.