Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's? If you cannot restore a sense of balance, you will run away from home? Just want to say some things without the constraints of staying on topic? Well, this thread is for you! If you just need a short break to let it all hang out, be a brat, then come on, you can do it. No holding back! Go for it, you can do it.
i think you mean nectar of the gods
After spending $750+ for repairs last week, there is just no money left, and more credit is not justifiable, so I had the car towed home.
Stranded here, broke, end of month.
Therapist describes this as "in a pickle", and I have recovered from that before.
So, a "pickled challenge"? Skipping next month's appointment, saving money.
Watch out, God is on the move today!
No, it is not a lifesaver candy.
It is a personal flotation devivce.
Grab hold if you are sinking and cannot swim.
We ate.
Not so clever here. I must have watched way too much "Hell's Kitchen" with Gordon Ramsay to have written about our meal that way, jokingly.
What really happened was, opening canned salmon, crunching up saltine crackers, one egg, making a salmon patty, finding the only vegetable left in the cupboard was a yam, I cannot take any clever credits.
Looking at what was on the pitiful plate as monochromatic gourmet plated was just my way to make it more positive. Lol.
Where is the chocolate and ice cream now? I want some!!!
At school it was always Ryvita. Two weeks into the term you'd eaten absolutely everything else, including the emergency Marvel dried milk powder, and all you had left was a packet of Ryvita crispbread with one and a half missing. It would be interesting to find out how bad famine has to get before anyone can actually finish them.
Usually, there is a plan in place for end-of-the-month scarce finances. However, I think Willy and Nilly are wanting to move in for good, take over control, and seek my destruction. I have got them in my radar, and a plan, a written plan for August's budget. Lack of self-discipline leads to me being my own worst enemy.
All the other peoples with plans for my budget have been notified to back off.
Fortunately, my hubs and I have never gone without good food or enough food.
when I mentioned to staff I didn’t know about the party, the reply was everyone got an email blast - I reminded them I don’t have email
the party and the lack of an invitation are not an issue although this has happened before but the constant lies are annoying- other families got an invite in the mail
why is it so hard to just say oops, sorry for the mix up?
while they charge a hefty sum for incontinance care, they are out of the size briefs that mom and some other women wear, so I’ve been bringing those from home for several days along with disposable chux which always seem to be scarce - grrrr
You can decide after your nap?
Not to be judgmental, but I would never drink sudsy dishwater soap, or even sudsy laundry water for fear it would give me diarrhea.
go to dinner but walk and bring mom a sudsy drink too 🍻
Stay strong! Start by taking care of yourself. Your Mom will need your support transitioning to memory care. You can't give it to her if you get sick. You can do this. I've been where you are and it sucks but if I could get through it anyone can. You've got this!
I'm sorry that things have gotten so bad that your mom has to be placed. Been there, done that. It ain't easy but, as you say, it needs to be done. You can't keep this up because your health will fail.
Come on back here as you grapple with your decision and we'll give you support. I think this decision was the most agonizing that I ever made but it was also the best decision I've made.
When the Alzheimer's parents can outsmart their offspring, it's time to let someone else handle it and we can return to being their kids.
Big (((hugs))).
The next few days are gonna be agonizing for you.
You are not throwing in the towel! You are doing what is best your you and your Mom. That thought won’t make the next few days easier but It does get easier.
You will still have plenty to do coordinating her care.
Boots, getting your Mom more specialized care is what was needed, and you are a strong person to do that for her.
how did the party go yesterday?
would any of the guests have visited mom for her birthday if you had not hosted a party?
the Viking's birthday is coming up over a 3day weekend and sis texted yesterday to let me know she can't come then and proceeded to tell me when she could come and she would need to stay over 2 nights so she could do other things
I haven't responded but I'm inclined to decline her plans - no one has visited mom in the past year and not sure why I should host a party to encourage them to do so plus mom would get more out of a one on one visit than me trying to feed her with six people yakking away and laughing - maybe it's the heat but I'm feeling cranky
I agree, if a person can't take the time to visit their own mother over the course of a year, then I wouldn't give a rat's tail about trying to get them there for a party-let alone accommodating them! Phooey 😑
But I may just be crabby today too. When is this heat gonna' let up? Grrrrr 🌞😠
I also may be out of sorts as my uncle died end of last month (went to funeral) and my brother-in-law died a week ago (43, what a shame) and we just got over all his doings. Hope bad things don't come in 3's. 🙄
Maybe autumn will be better.
sorry to hear of your family losses
hope the hurricane headed towards Baja doesn’t make weather even worse
mom makes a face every time she sees her purée plate
hoca never has a menu choice and never has cottage cheese
I bring her cottage cheese and peach cups and she gobbles it
another resident’s wife shares an avocado with her
if mom’s alert and seated upright then I let her eat real food within reason cut finely
she does have a tendency to stuff too much in her mouth or gulp too fast so it’s better controlled when she’s hand fed but I want her to do as much as she can for as long as she can
the only concern I’ve heard from hoca was when she lost 6 pounds from refusing purée - they suggested an appetite stimulant - I refused
I asked them why they didn’t care when she packed on 30 lbs from all their cookies and ice cream - I got no reply so I guess that’s not a licensing issue