Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's? If you cannot restore a sense of balance, you will run away from home? Just want to say some things without the constraints of staying on topic? Well, this thread is for you! If you just need a short break to let it all hang out, be a brat, then come on, you can do it. No holding back! Go for it, you can do it.
A neighbor said he WAS wearing a shirt the other day. Lifted it to wipe his nose, she saw his obese belly.
Too bad about the game too. :( :( :(
Just trying to keep up with what my friends are interested in, but a world series is quite an event. It is disappointing that one's home team is losing. So many fans in town, plus 5 different sports teams converged on SoCal and L.A. today.
A rude car was honking behind me, to hurry me up, turning left. I slowed, blasted my horn continuously...he flipped me the bone. So I rolled down my window, yelled a happy hello, and said: "Another happy Dodger fan!" LOL.
That just about tops any bad behavior publically that I have done recently.
But getting tired of the public being so mean, hostile, full of hate, and trying to run me off the roads of my home town. I am fighting back.
Behaving badly on purpose.
Dodgers fans...I feel your pain. 😔
Those Red Sox really kept it together during the playoffs.
The Red Socks really did well,your'e right and hopefully another year,the Dodgers will make it to be in another Series.Who I'd really love to be in the Series next year would be the Cardinals.They've always been my favorite team.
With respect to my Astros I left their logo as my avatar until the World Series ended last night.
It is really special when your team wins the World Series. All fans deserve to have that feeling and for some of us the magic may happen in our lifetime.
Good Luck to your Cardinals next year! And the Dodgers.
Looked up again how to manage. The ice pack helped me, took vitamins, tylenol, and slept an hour in a darkened, cool room. It may be quicker just to post the symptoms I don't have, just to save time.
Yeah. Feeling creative, but I am just not as good at it a n y m o r e. Heh heh.
Later brats.
Betcha can't find the tricksters on tonight's forum.
Assuming there are some, whooooo!
Nothing bad has happened yet. Yay!
Congratulations on your new home Glad!
I observed one of the hoca wanderers enter another resident's room and shut the door tonight expecting he wouldn't meet with welcome and would turn around
I then carried on with what I was doing but since no one was about, I decided to circle back and check it out
the wanderer had not returned to his room, and I could hear yelling from behind the closed door so I opened it
the wanderer was flopped on the resident's bed, and she was cussing for him to leave - I tried to calm her and distract him to walk with me - it took a couple of minutes but he got up and I was able to lock her door
while I don't think he meant her harm, no one was aware this was happening and he did touch her legs in a somewhat sexual manner
I did let the nurse know
It's very fortunate you were not just there but also willing to help and experienced enough to do the job well. What riles me is that Hoca has no *business* to rely on happenstance like this.
It isn't that anything so terribly dreadful happened, either. But looked at from the lady's point of view, if you can't feel safe in your own room in your own bed it's a bad, bad lookout.
It's just not good enough. What the heck do they think they're for?
I'm not sure I want to look at the news. Can't face it this morning. Hope things are being brought under control :(
unlike nh, the residents don't have call buttons so if the situation was one I didn't want to be near, I would have left the room
if the social worker hadn't quit, I would inform her, as last week, this same man was in the Viking's hallway and kept entering the room across the way
unfortunately, staff rarely redirects him to either his room or the common area
I hardly like to ask in case you think I'm being ironic - I'm not - but has Hoca done the recommended things about helping residents to identify their own rooms and key common areas?
If they haven't, you could think about making a bright poster of, say, Herbert's Room; or his old house number or name or whatever, and sticking it on his door (or suggesting that they do that). I don't suppose you ever see any family members to talk to?
Madge, every time you post, I want to reach out and say "there is better out there". I'm not in your shoes; the Viking is not my mom. But where she is sounds truly awful, all the time.
(((((hugs))))))
You asked, What do you think?
So, I have a whole lot of thoughts about the man in another lady's room and her yelling, and him touching her.
I am just having trouble getting past how this is not a criminal offense because he is ill and in memory care. Clients need to place their loved ones where they will be safe from predators, imo.
Predators live in jails, imo.
A facility is obligated by law to supervise this man. He could not be trusted on a locked ward either, the women would all be assaulted.
Don't get me wrong....I do understand he is impaired. That would be a mitigating factor, but it does not erase the crime.
I also feel sorry for the victim.
Next time, break glass. You know, the glass in the fire alarm.......help will come.
What you describe doesn't sound safe for you or for your client, and it doesn't sound good for the POA son either. I'm not judging him out of hand - if he has mental health issues it may be too much for him to be his Dad's primary caregiver, and he needs help. But that doesn't make it ok for you to feel threatened at work or for a vulnerable elder to be alone with him, either. Good luck, please keep in touch with us.
Management needs a full account of what you’ve witnessed. Cite specific dates and times of day.
After your meeting with the ombudsman, continue to observe. If you do not see improvements, schedule a follow-up. Again, be as specific as possible when you describe this man’s incidents.
Nice and calm, of course. Tell them that you care about their employees’ safety, as well as the residents’ safety.
Do this as many times as what you witness warrants.
I also second the idea of a hidden camera. If the laws (and rules of the care home) allow.
Big hugs, Madge. So much sadness with your journey at HOCA.
Take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well. (More easily said than done, I know! But remember, where you put your effort is where you’ll see results. Give yourself permission to invest in yourself. 💕💕)
Sorry MsMadge.