Sendhelp Posted March 2017
Caregiver's cats behaving badly.
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Does your Cat (or any pet) misbehave since caregiving your loved one?
Have you been required to take care of your loved one's pet after they have passed? Does your pet have cute antics that entertain your loved one?
And finally, has the cat or dog transferred their loyalty to your Mother?
Golden, Divo showed me that he could be behavioral at times with pee/poo. If something in his little cat world was off and he wasn't happy about it, he would go on my bed, in my closet, or other places outside the litter box. It was after baths, trip to vet, and once when I was away for a week on vacation. If you rule out UTI and other things, you might have a similar situation.
In his last month, I think he was peeing in the living room. I noticed it more after he was gone. I bought a rug cleaner and pet stain remover and cleaned the rug 3 times. I can still smell faint urine smell in there and am just waiting to find a new area rug I like to replace it. Febreze spray (not the aerosol) on the rug keeps it to a minimum. It's a lot of work to clean up after, I sympathize!
I have a new great grand kitty named Oliver - black with white paws and front. - my granddaughter's new fur baby. Having a bed, crate etc. not needed since I lost Pumpkin, I gathered them up with some toys and gave them to Em (dgd). Oliver is very happy about that however, Rocky is not .
The day after I gave away Pumpkin's things (two days ago) Rocky peed on my bed. It went through a bed cover, 2 comforters, 2 sheets, a mattress cover, and the foam mattress which stopped it from reaching the actual mattress - thankfully.
I discovered it at bedtime so I hauled everything off the bed and took it downstairs and started the laundry going. I managed to clean the foam mattress, which was a relatively new one, with Lysol and peroxide. And I gave Rocky a spanking clean litter box just to be sure that wasn't the problem. She spent that night and every night since in the basement as she used to. When Pumpkin was lost I let her sleep upstairs at but no more!
I ordered a waterproof mattress cover, as I needed a new one anyway, and am making do with oddments for bedding till that comes and I haul all the clean bedding back up two flights of stairs to make up my bed.
Late this afternoon I walked by the door to the basement and smelled cat pee again where I hadn't all day. I went downstairs and couldn't locate the source of the smell other than it was downstairs. Aaargh!! I called dd who was in the middle of a good cry over a sensitive movie and said I needed her help to find and clean cat pee. Bless her, she came right over. She couldn't locate it either. We started sweeping and mopping and managed to eliminate the bathroom and the small bedroom and sort of located the smell to a general area in the main room. So pulled out some furniture and low and behold, couldn't see any puddles but found a dozen spring toys and some cloth mice. We cleaned that area twice and it's better but I am not sure it is gone.
Rocky had a blast playing with recovered toys. I took pain killers for an fm flare up in my legs from too many trips on the stairs.
Tomorrow is another day and we will try again. Wish me luck!
He's a rescue and has always been underweight (pretty clearly the runt of a feral litter). Hoping for the best.
We are leaving in 3 weeks time for an extended trip, so he will board at the vet and perhaps they will be able to do better than I.
A few years ago, my cat Charlie needed to have syringe water feeding. Whew, I was so glad he cooperated, except for the times when he decides he's had enough and starts to walk away, out comes the syringe with water spraying everywhere :P I think cats know when something we do is helping them.
Does Sherlock eat the special food? Charlie refused it, so the Vet said let him eat wet food whatever he likes, better than not eating at all.
Shelock seems better tonight. He isn't fighting the syringe feeding (and I've watched a couple of YouTube videos that have helped.
Send, I just now saw your post from a month ago! It's unfortunate about the terrible cat I let in here. I knew better in my gut but I had a discussion with the owner and she seemed to understand she had to remove her if things didn't go well. Well, they moved out, so it's done. But I need to stand up for myself. It's tough for me, and just easier to ignore things and grit my teeth through it.
It was a surprise that this situation was bad, considering my previous experience with the previous roomie who was reference. It ended up that BOTH of them lived here due to their circumstances... and I didn't agree to double occupancy but again, I let it slide. Believe me, I'm thinking a lot about these things I let go on and how to remedy.
I have a great new roommate, and the new policy is -- No other pets will be considered, and multiple reference checks and background checks before anyone moves in. I've found if I sublet to students or recent grads, they are busy and productive in their own lives and are solid roomies. There are plenty of women who fit that description where I live who are looking for convenient housing. These have been learning experiences, for sure. But I have been disappointed with myself that I cannot be polite-but-assertive about enforcing boundaries.
Barb - so sorry about Sherlock. Sounds like you are doing all that can be done for him.
My thoughts are with you.
8 year old Sherlock is in renal failure. On a renal diet, getting potassium, anti-nausea pills and getting syringe fed twice a day.
These roommate issues bring some strange reactions!
First, the addict roommate says something like: "I'm not moving, this is my apt. now."
Then the new roommate (who agrees to 'rehome' her cat if it doesn't work out), brings up that her cat is her support animal. Is that an implied legal defense or something? But she (like the other room mate, has given notice.).
Instead of rehoming the cat and staying.
I am just here to support you that they are very strange, it's not you! Don't even stop to doubt your sanity. It appears you are being used.
As for the empty front bedroom, put a lock on it and keep the door closed, imo.
You did not rent out that room to her or her cat. No need to grant access by default.
You say there was a written agreement about the cat? Well, boundaries would dictate that the cat must go now (preferably to a family member that can care for the cat until roommate moves out). It is amazing to me that roommate gets to keep her cat there just because she herself gave notice that she is moving?
Why, how is this even a consideration?
The cat has no legal standing, no rights in court to avoid eviction. Can you be tough about it? Ask animal control to weigh in, maybe they will come and get the cat?
Guess I would be talking to 'the good roommate' who referred this tenant to you.
Sorry that your space has been invaded again. And, they keep selling you a whole lot of B.S. to delay leaving.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pwgkgkDW6Dw
yes, Glad, I’m concerned he may go after the cats and the boys will try to stop him, then they get bit/hurt. I’d feel really bad if something happened to them as well.
The spray bottle idea is easy enough and I can use if needed.
Then he flies to the bed, walks around. This was fun, said me, thinking we are bonding. He flew over when I called him (a new behavior!) He ate spinach from my hand. He started spending more time sleeping on the computer.
He nibbled on my toes just as I was waking from a nap. So cute!
Then he bites my toe! Then he is holding on, it hurt! He is hormonal, thinking now that I am his mate, not his mom. The solution found on the internet is to distract him with a toy. To make sure he gets more sleep, undisturbed.
The idea to get him a bird companion is just not feasible. But he could be lonely, hormonal, and jealous. I have asked dH to spend more time talking to him, and taken away the mirrors, decreased the bird videos and added parental controls to the ones he watches.
Hoping this will pass and he will be okay.
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The dog is misbehaving. Board it, in my opinion. Protect your own pets first.
Ali,
Carry a spray bottle of water or keep it nearby (Ali-when the new cat is aggressive). This may help, but I am sure watching a few cat whisperer videos
will help both you, and your roommate to be on the same page.
When there was a cat who passed recently, the new cat is going to be wondering, and looking for that missing cat smell. Let alone the existence of a real cat. Replace all the bedding (including the new cat's) with new.
What happened when your DD brought the dog over is what's going to happen if he's left there for a few days. You were good to try but it's better to have the dog go to boarding and spare you and your cats the stress.