where it's so repetitive and I'm embaressed to say it gets sooo annoying. I can not get any of my stuff done as soon as I start on a project or dishes I have to stop for what seems to take forever to help a bathroom break, or an unexpected scream for help for no apparent reason. It's like I'm at the edge of my seat waiting and waiting all the time for this molasses in January. It's painfully slow moving like I want to say cmon hurry up I have other things to do! But I'm just biting my tongue waiting for this SLOW MOVING little old lady. Does anyone else ever feel this way? It's like to brush her teeth takes 35 minutes, to go to toilet is 45 minutes, so I'm on the near by, stand by waiting to help at all times. Do any other caregivers deal with this much waiting? I feel guilty to feel this way but its all so slowww oh its so hard to get my things done I type this message to you all while I'm waiting closely to her at all times soo sloooowwwww she is so slow
I think being stressed by needing to get other stuff done or a sleep deprivation makes all the little irritations so much worse. So much of our "success" in care giving comes down to learning to deal with stress in the moment; the deep breathe, the count to ten, thinking you're grateful to being helping your LO to the bathroom instead of cleaning up when they can't make it, etc. Find something that works for you and things will get easier, but know care giving will never be easy.
Learn poetry to say in your head, or songs to hum to yourself, or use worry beads, or just take a book. It is insane how long everything takes, but it is also normal. Insane is normal = caregiving. Hugs to you.