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I strongly agree with contacting organizations who might be able to help. If it turns out that you must contact the APS, definitely make a report and take with you all proof that there's a problem. What I would suggest if he still homeless is to get pictures of him sleeping in the park and eating from the trash along with all other proof of him being homeless. If you can even get a video of the action as well as the pictures of him living in the park, that will help strengthen your case. If the man happens to be competent, you may have to alert the authorities and any park ranger who happens to be over the park where he's living. You definitely want to let them know what's going on so they have a better understanding on how to properly handle the situation. Yes, his age should definitely be a serious consideration. I'm not sure exactly what caused him to be homeless, it sounds like it may have been either unfortunate situations that forced him out in the street, but it could've also been bad decisions on his part, I don't know. Whatever the cause of homelessness should be remedied before it gets too cold in winter sets in. Homeless people often end up dying in the streets with no one to claim the body. This is a sad existence. No one should live like that, especially if the person never had funeral arrangements or a will set up before they became homeless. If no one claims your body before you became homeless and you have no identification and no funeral arrangements, your final wishes may not be honored. I've seen videos on YouTube including one where the city cremated the body of an unclaimed person who had no funeral arrangements and no one to claim him. I think that if you're going to have no one to claim you, at least have some form of arrangements in place in case something happens to you and you become homeless and happen to die in the streets
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Have you tried to contact your local agency on aging, if dad was a vet, the VA. any group that deals with the issues you are dealing with.
Could any family member come for a day, and give you a break from all of the anxiety you seem to have. The one thing I've learned from taking care of my mom years ago, you need to find a way to have time for yourself, a hobby, reading, praying any thing that puts your mind at peace. . Caregiving can be tough, but you are blessed to have a supportive husband and a caring daughter. Take care and God Bless.
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Has your father been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, or is he suffering from mental illness. If he has Alzheimer's he may need nursing home placement because it will only get worse. If he's mentally ill he needs to be treated.
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Train wreck? I guess you could say that It's more a fender bender now and everyone has car insurance. Daughter is doing fine. Is just past 18. I just keep talking with her. It was slow going, with a few slips. She came to realize how precious she was to us, how loved and that she was the only one that could really make the decision to help herself. So she Pulled herself together. Went to summer school to make up credits. She's graduated from high school with a 3.4. GPA. Missed the "with honors". She just couldn't make up that one class. She's enrolled herself into college and looking forward to it. She has expressed her feeling of anger and frustration to me about having to help with her grandad and losing those young teenage years with friends because of it. All while her young uncle and cousin gets to enjoy theirs. I'll I could say was that I was sorry and it is unfair, but this is our life and he's apart of it. The faster we as a family accepts it, the faster life can go on. Work together, work around him, his needs as while as our own. It also helped that We pay her A bit. So she's with us and still helping with grandad. Her only real concerns so far are regular life stuff. Getting her DL and finding a part time job.
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Oh, goodness. It sounds like a train wreck. You sound like very tough people. Is your daughter okay with things? She would be the main one i worried about. How old is she now?
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