I had moved dad to Michigan near me last October and was able to visit him everyday until the Covid crisis. But still had many window visits and traded videos with the staff.
He was on hospice and they helped him have a peaceful death. He had no pain or distress. The long battle with dementia is finally over. He’ll be cremated here then I’ll bury his ashes beside mom in WV.
I want to thank Aging care and all the good people I have interacted with the past few years. This site was a great resource for me as I dealt with both parents on my own.
Rbuser1
As losing a loved one with dementia is often called the "long goodbye" - like you said you already felt like you lost him five years ago and began the grieving process in "bits and pieces."
Even though I don't know you or your full story since I've only been on the forum a couple months, I still feel sad for your loss and will continue praying for you as you make that final journey home to WV to join your parents together - it will be bittersweet, no doubt.
May God's presence be with you always -
Please, feel free to stay on this site. You may have insight that may help others. You're so right about this site being a great resource. Frankly, the people here saved my life.
*hug*
Be sure to give and get hugs each morning, cherishing the two of you during this difficult time.
I did all the house/real estate stuff after mom died in 2917 so I’m not facing that job now. Cremation will be soon and I’ll make my last trip home to WV so dad can join mom.
I strongly encourage caregivers to utilize hospice. Try to find a non profit organization and get your loved one evaluated as soon as decline begins. It made a huge difference for my dad and for my peace of mind.
Time, at last - to lay down your sword and shield. The war is finally over, with no winners or losers - just peace finally for all.
You have been a valiant protector and I have always appreciated and admired the level of dignity and respect with which you treated both of your parents - even when it made things more difficult for you.
As the minutes and hours come - of looking back and reflecting on this time and the choices made - know you can hold your head high in a battle well fought.
With sympathy - Rain
You are in my thoughts and prayers. My dad passed away in August. My prayer for you is to feel God’s wisdom, clarity, insight, peace and rest. Thank you for sharing your journey with us on this forum. You helped me and many, many others by knowing we are not alone. You are a blessing.
You've journeyed a long way with your parents, from the rush visits down to WV whenever a crisis occurred to support of both parents until your mother passed, then when you brought your father back here. That was I think an excellent choice, especially for him. You gave up your life to be with them, comfort and guide them.
I've no doubt that that guidance helped ease both your mother's passing earlier, and your father's now.
I wish you peace as you go forward, and may the memories of good times as well as the support you willingly and lovingly provided comfort you in the days ahead.
I am so sorry about your dad. You shared a great deal with us about your parents last few years. Your posts stand out in memory with the many issues you faced head on but with compassion and love. The moves, the dental issues, the clearing of the home, your moms services. The regular visits. I just read recently that you were volunteering for hospice. I always looked forward to your posts and your ability to move forward with the issue at hand. Take care and know you make a difference to many.
This is a real community here; there are times I feel closer to you all than anyone else. ((((Hugs)))))).
My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.
So sorry for your loss of your Father.
(Both parents, really).
You are a good Son!
May God grant you peace and comfort during this time.
He was blessed to have a son that cared so much.