how can i deal with this behavior? She is trying devide and separate in my family and with my sibilings as well as giving to one of my children and not to all of them . I am feeling she is controlling and mean. she is keeping a plant given to her that is vey harmful to cats and refusing to let another family member care for it till she moves back home? It is in her bedroom but she doen't always remember to close her door and I have 3 indoor cats. Help ME