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And when I said he and his daughters, I meant the nurse and my husband's daughters who are 46.years old
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I KNOW hospice hastened my husband's death . His nurse came and told him he was going to help him die . He took him off his oxygen,and started administration of large doses os morphine and Ativan . 10 hours later of him gasping and gurgling, and the hospice nurse giving more and more morphine,he died . I do not believe it was his time to go like the nurse told me . I think he and his daughters discussed this unbeknownst to me and told me that this is what is done . My husband was terminal,with stg 4 lung cancer , but I do not believe he was ready to go.
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SueC1957, thank you for clearing up any misguided information here on this thread!

I believe that a lot of people want to have somebody to blame, when their Loved One dies, and especially on Hospice, when they are the ones who "Signed Up" their dying parents in the first place!

Did these people not read over the forms they signed, read over the information and the many pamphlets they were given to them, to help them to understand exactly what the role of Hospice Care is there for in the first place?

I know, that when our own Mom was placed on Hospice, we were given precise info on what to expect, and not to expect, and soon found out, that it would be "all hands on deck", in the care and comfort of our Mom, who was dying of Cancer, and the Hospice team was a GODSEND! And it took 15 or more family members to make the team work like clockwork!

The most important thing was that our Mom not suffer, and that is exactly what they did! Our Mom was on Hospice for 5 months, and it was only the last 8 days or so, when she was Actively Dying, that she became incoherent, and began sleeping and "out of it", but it was clearly explained at every step of the way, that it was Not due to the Narcotics or anti-anxiety medications, but because her body was Shutting Down! Our Mom had been on some pretty heavy doses of IV Dilaudid (narcotics), the entire time, to aid in the excruciating pain of her eroding Cancerous pelvic bones, from the spread of Uterine Cancer. 

If the family fails to communicate with the Hospice team or their Dr's, then they are confused into believing that Hospice is to blame, and that their parents were dying and or were expected to die soon (6 months or less), in the first place!

I think people are trying to place blame, where there isn't any, and need to give up the guilt, that they had any control, on when somebody passes away in the first place, as nobody ever knows for sure, when it's their time to die.

After all, shouldn't they be glad, that their family members were given the chance to be relieved of the pain and anxiety of the dying process? I know that I wouldn't wish to die, thrashing and gasping for air, if it were possible for those symptoms to be eased? Yep, you Betcha, sign me up! 

I've been in the room, and at the bedside of both my parents,  and my MIL when they passed, and while only my Mom was on Hospice,  the other 2 were in hospital,  and when offered the option of making their imminent passing less frightening to the parent,  we agreed, and are glad that we did. Nobody ever wants to see someone who they love, panic, while dying. It's very dificult to even be there knowing that it's the last moments of someone's life,  but I'm glad for the opportunity to have been there to comfort them, and to say our goodbyes. 

Sue, thank you for all you do as a Hospice Angel, we need more people just like you!
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Honeydog,
How unusual for an autopsy for a hospice patient. The doctor knew she had a terminal illness, so I'm thinking that you ordered the autopsy/toxicology reports. That must have been expensive.
It's mind boggling that they found more than 2400 mg. of Morphine in her system!!
(200mg lethal dose times 12 people=2400 mg.)
"they did that to my mum i questioned it and toxicology showed she had enough to kill 12 people there"
With my hospice, there is never that much Morphine at the house. All medicine has to be signed out, so you could have the records audited to see how much she 'actually' received.

You said," sad and very wrong way to save money when they claim to give dignity in dying." Hospices are paid by Medicare only. It doesn't make sense to kill patients if the hospices want to get paid. They are only paid if the patient is alive.

"forcing people to die is wrong my mum told them not to do this even."
We CAN'T give a patient medication if they refuse. It's called battery and the nurse could go to jail.

I'm sorry for your loss.
It's imperative that the family members who don't want hospice communicate their wishes to the family members that have power of attorney.
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I was just reading that post mortems are kind rare these days.
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Honeydog, I am surprised that there was a toxicology report at all. There is rarely an autopsy performed on hospice patients. Did someone request an autopsy?
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My Sweet Momma,
I'm not giving you an opinion, I'm giving you fact. I don't care if you want it or not. It was for all the readers who believed your statements, so they would be properly informed.

SINCE so many of you have had bad experiences with hospice, why don't you all get a petition going to outlaw it. I'm not being sarcastic. Really.....do it. Make hospice illegal. Then no patient ever again will suffer at the hands of a "killer nurse".
Then we can finally let this thread die.
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they did that to my mum i questioned it and toxicology showed she had enough to kill 12 people there, sad and very wrong way to save money when they claim to give dignity in dying. forcing people to die is wrong my mum told them not to do this even.rip mum still fighting for your rights xxx
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yes same happened to my mother, toxicology showed she had enough morphine in one week to kill 12 people, and she was also opiate naive. hastened death is a way they save money sadly.so so wrong.
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Dear SueC1957,
I did not ask for information or for your opinion.I shared my experience and no one can disagree with someone's experience.I do not like hospice.They shorten peoples lives with medication.That is my experience.I did not ask for hospice nor did I initiate it.I was against it ,unfortunately I did not have legal rights to dismiss what was already set in motion and my mother suffered for it.You have no idea what she or I went through so please keep your comments directed to someone who wants them.
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My Sweet Mamma,
Just to let you know, opiates tend to have short half-lives, meaning that they leave the system quickly, though effects can last for several hours. How long each opiate can be detected by drug tests varies, depending on many factors, including the type of ingestion. Prescription opiates typically come in pill form. Taking a drug orally means that it has to pass through the digestive system first, so it can take around an hour for the effects to begin.

Other factors affecting how quickly an opiate leaves the system include:
The individual’s metabolism rate
Body mass and weight
Body fat content
Health of the liver and kidneys
Age
How often and how heavy opiate use is
Quality of the drug
Amount of water in the body
Of course, the type of opiate also factors into how long it can be detected by drug tests. The most commonly used opiates are heroin, hydrocodone, morphine, and codeine.
Morphine takes longer to work and the effects tend to last longer. Despite this, blood tests can only detect morphine for the first 12 hours after the last dose, and urine tests only work for up to 3 days. However, saliva tests are more effective, being able to detect traces of morphine for up to 4 days. Again, morphine stays in the hair for 90 days.

However, due to the fact that opiates will build up in fatty tissues after EXCESSIVE use (2-4 times a day for years), these limits will extend beyond the outer limit if the individual is a HEAVY, LONG-TERM user. Hospice patients are not considered excessive, heavy or long term users. They do NOT die from an accumulation of narcotic in their system.
I believe you might be thinking of toxic accumulation caused by heavy metals or arsenic that can't be cleared from the body's tissues and can pose serious health risks or death.

Again, hospice patients are not given anywhere near lethal doses. It's JUST ENOUGH to diminish pain or ease breathing or anxiety. Look at the dose for MomtoMom's mother, barely anything (2.5 mg.) compared to a hospitalized surgical patients' pain regimen (15 mg.).

Folks, 200 mg. would be a lethal dose. No doctor would ever prescribe over 15 mg. Stop thinking that the Morphine kills them. They were ready to die and they can go from alert, talking and eating to lethargic, non eating, etc. in a few days. Everyone has their own time table. Some are lucky enough to pass away in their sleep, others linger and go down hill over days, weeks, months.

IF YOU DON'T WANT YOUR FAMILY MEMBER MEDICATED (for whatever reason) THEN DON'T SIGN UP YOUR LOVED ONE WITH HOSPICE.
YOU manage their symptoms as YOU see fit. But please re-read Mom2Mom's experience and how her mother benefited from a tiny dose. THIS is what we hospice nurses do.
(Information in the first 3 paragraphs provided by American Addiction Centers.)
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Mom2Mom,
How wonderful you could see the benefit of using Morphine to alleviate pain, ease difficult breathing or anxiety for your mom.

A 2.5 mg dose is practically nothing.
I've given 15 mg. every 4 hours to my post operative (after surgery) patients. Fifteen mg. is 6 times your mom's dose and is nowhere near lethal. You kept your mom comfortable as death slowly took her. I'm glad she could pass comfortably and you had the tools to assist her in her journey.
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My mother was hospitalized a couple of weeks ago with a UTI and breathing issues, most likely aspiration pneumonia. There is a chance she could have been cured but to what end. Just to be back in the same cycle of hospital, rehab, home? She hated the hospital and rehab and frankly was at the point at home where she had no real life - just sitting in her chair or wheelchair, being fed and changed.

She told the doctor at the hospital that she just wished to go home. He made it clear to her that if she went home, it meant going home to die. She just kept saying she wanted to go home.

respecting her wishes, we brought her home under Hospice care on April 29.

Since Hospice does not provide 24 hour in home care, I split the duties between her three at home caregivers from 7:30AM-8:00PM M-F and I did all of the rest of the shifts.

These caregivers are not hospice workers and had difficulty changing modes between helping her live and helping her die. They would beg her to eat a little and take sips of juice or water and then celebrate every success.

I didn't want my mother to suffer from hunger or thirst so during my turns at watch, I would offer once in a while and then leave her alone if she shook her head no. I did not push eating or drinking.

We were given morphine and told to administer it (and several other meds that I can't remember right now), for discomfort or pain. The dose was 2.5mg every six hours but to call if we thought she needed more.

We did Morphine twice on about the second or third day and then nothing until the last.

She had no idea who we were, she had no idea that she was home after that first day. She spent the week hallucinating and talking to dead relatives.

Every morning, she was in a soaking wet bed despite her catheter (fluid from the bowels?) and had just vomited so her head and neck were wet. It could not have been comfortable. I had to change her sheets and clean her alone - or at least start until the morning caregiver arrived. It is hard to be gentle when you are changing someone's sheets alone. It was torture for both of us.

By day 6, Friday, the caregivers had figured out their mission and were no longer begging her to take sips of water or milkshake. But, her breathing had taken a horrible turn and it sounded as if she were drowning. At my direction, they resumed morphine. I sat death watch late into Friday night and gave her her final 2.5 mg dose of Morphine. Saturday morning, I was relieved to find no wet bed, no vomit and the horrible breathing had stopped.

No, hospice did not rush my mother to death. They took too long. I wish it would have been legal to hurry her along. She had died the previous Sunday. Her body just didn't know it yet.
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Dear Jones27,
I am so very sorry for your loss.I had a horrible experience with hospice.Once you begin giving an elderly person morphine,it hastens their death.Elderly already have renal impairment.Kidneys do not function like that of a young person therefore medications are not readily cleared from the body but accumulate which is one of the reasons why elderly may suddenly develop changes because their meds are building up at high levels in their system.Hospice claims they are there for comfort care with their little toolbox of medications.I say they are there to bring about a speedy end.I am all about supporting life for as long as humanly possible which means I will go to any lengths to make sure my elderly loved one receives all the medical care they deserve to get better if at all possible but once hospice is called in...beware! They will resist you on any further medical care from a medical Dr. and they keep reminding you that hospice is only there to keep the loved one comfortable...not to get them better.That is not hospices goal.I will never recommend hospice to anyone.My mother was sent to a very early grave.She was less than a month away from her June birthday and they made it impossible for her to reach it.She died in my arms as she breathed her last breath.I will miss her everyday for the rest of my life.I am sorry for what you have gone through.I wish I knew how to start some organization that fights against what hospice does to elderly people.The best way to fight it is to not initiate their services and make sure that no outside organization initiates their services either.In my case there was a legal guardian making all my mom's decisions.My sister had her declared incompetent and put in a facility.My mom was as alert as you or I.It was so sad.She lasted two years in the facility and then hospice took her with all the various drugs. The best you can do now is take really good care of yourself and share your experience,strength and hope with others.Bless you.
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My dear one,I recently had a horrible experience with Hospice.There was a legal guardian appointed by my older sister to make all legal decisions for my mother.My mother was placed in a memory care facility.The guardian called in hospice and death was no where near.My mom was on hospice for more than a year but at the nursing home she had fall after fall after fall.So many people were dying in this home from repeated blows to the head from senseless falls that could have been avoided.My mom was given an antibiotic for a simple UTI that had severe psychiatric side effects like hallucinations,paranoia,agitation and insomnia.I told hospice of a previous reaction to the same drug and asked that she not be placed on it.They did it anyway.She went from her normal self with UTI symptoms to hallucinating,combative,paranoid and no sleeping.She also lost her appetite on these antibiotics.I pleaded with them to stop.Again..no one listened and I had no legal rights.I contacted elderly protective services.No one called me back.Then I got a call saying my mothers finger tip had been completely severed off.No one contacted me until the next day.She was dead within one week of her finger getting cut off and the nursing facility said her finger got torn off from one of her dresser handles and that is impossible.She was refusing her meds because she knew something she was being given was affecting her very badly.She told me they were trying to kill her and that the next time I saw her she would be dead.Then they started giving her haldol to keep her sedated because of the antibiotic side effects.Then they moved her to the hospice inpatient center where they continued to sedate and drug her more and more.They were with holding food and water.My mom's friends stopped for a long visit and said no meals or water was offered to my mom but my mom asked for some breakfast cereal and fruit so reluctantly,hospice gave it to her and she ate it heartily.She was hungry.They continued to push the drugs and completely with held food and water and she died in my arms one week after her finger was completely severed.I want nothing to do with Hospice ever again.They take people's lives before their time.I only wish I could have had my mom in my home to care for her with NO hospice and I know she would have seen her next birthday on this June.My only comfort is that she died and breathed her last breath in my arms,cheek to cheek.God Bless you for all you suffered watching your loved one be put to death before his time.I am sorry to say it that way but that is what so many people have had happen with hospice.As for myself I am going to have a document or a will drawn up forbidding anyone to initiate hospice for me.I want to go on God's terms without having their drugs bring me to a quicker end while they sit there and smile telling the family how peaceful their loved one looks.To me it seems very similar to what Dr.Kevorkian did only the people in their care did not ask to have their lives ended this way..it is the hospice way and I DO NOT APPROVE.
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Hospice helped me care for my mother for about a year. She died 19 November 2016. In no way was her death hastened by hospice. I wasn't ready, but apparently she was. As I keep saying, not all hospice providers are of equal quality. The people assigned to my mother were all terrific with only one or two substitute CNAs who were not (one did not even show up and she ended up fired).
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NO one (but the Good Lord) knows the moment when a person dies. I have had patients that hung on far beyond what I thought possible and others that have slipped away before the time I thought they would. It's impossible to know exactly when. That goes for both nurses and family. So everyone is guessing. There are signs however that death is imminent.

All of the hospice protocols are explained to the family members THAT ARE THERE with the patient. I know it's a difficult time but you need to know what you are signing up for. Hospice's MAIN function is to make the patient comfortable. Sometimes that means being medicated to relieve the discomfort or anxiety and the family can't interact with their loved one. This stresses out families. But what would you rather have, your loved one uncomfortable or stressed out trying to talk to you or have them resting quietly and comfortably?

As a part time hospice nurse, my suggestion is, inform everyone in your family with hospice protocols. If ANYONE in your family has reservations with hospice using Morphine, (or any other medicine for that matter), I strongly suggest you NOT use hospice. That way hospice will not be implicated in your loved ones death. You will not be able to say they overdosed your family member and were responsible for "killing" them. You can manage their pain and/or anxiety (or not) yourself and know that your loved one died "at the right time".

If, however, you want to make sure that your loved one does not have any suffering or anxiety during their dying process, I recommend hospice wholeheartedly, knowing your family member will pass in comfort. I hope that's how I go.
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The hospital, prior to going to hospice rushed my brother's death. Prior to starting morphine and Ativan, he was sitting on the side of his bed talking and eating a smoothie. His only pain was from cellulitis in one leg which was being managed with oxycodone. His leg edema being treated with Lasix. He had COPD, but was not on oxygen. His vitals the afternoon prior were, b/p: 135/63, pulse: 70, temperature 97.8. I returned to see him in the morning and he was sedated with the above meds and never regained consciousness.  His estranged wife (8 yrs separated) is a RN said, "I had them start him on morphine and activan as he had a restless night".     There are a lot more details that I won't go into here that haunt me to this day.   I saw this...lived it...still can't believe it happened!   I feel as thought I watched an execution!   I've lost family members who were suffering before...my parents, another brother 3 months prior to this one where I welcomed the use of the these drugs to keep them comfortable so they would not suffer in the end, but this brother was not on his death bed!
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Jones27, so sorry for the passing of your Mom.

Yes, morphine can be deadly if misused, like using over 200mg in each dosage. No Hospice Doctor would ever script for such a high dosage.

Hospice only uses 5mg to 15mg for each dosage, which is a safe amount. Probably no different that what hospital patients get after having major surgery. using a morphine pump to help control the pain.
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As I read all the comments about Hospice and loved ones, it breaks me down with such sadness and madness. There are so many unknowns and a whirlwind of fast decisions. Hospice was comforting, but this one nurse I had to tell her I felt as if she was rushing my moms death. I received a call while I was in route to see my mother and was told to hurry up because she probably would not make it through the evening. I cried, panicked and drove like a mad woman on a mission. After about 30 minuets of driving about 80 plus miles an hour, a calmness came over me and said it will not be tonight, they do not know. When I arrived the hospice nurse approached me as I entered my mother's room, I was overwhelmed with fear and anger. The nurse seemed exited about death. This startled me and it made me angry, I shared my thoughts with her and I stopped talking to her. She came to me apologizing with concern. This only confused me to no end. I have so much to say, but not certain if my voice would be heard. Morphine is deadly. I, like many of you, did not know how deadly this medicine can be. I voiced my concerns about the dosages, but I felt I was not heard until I said this is not working for us, I need to pull her off Hospice. Mama's breathing changed, she was slipping and I did not want her to suffer. I knew she was going to leave us, but I did not think this soon. I think those concoctions speed up God's plans. I feel like screaming to the top of any mountain top to relieve my pain, but I know it will not go away. My mom had so many conditions going against her that it literally broke my heart and I do not think it can be repaired. I am not done with my comments, but to emotionally to complete them today.
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I don't know if this is going to work or not but I'd like to say a little something I also have grief from my mothers passing she was given the morphine at the nursing home I asked my sisters not to do this but I was overruled. I often wonder if we It made it faster . For her to die. I want to thank everyone who made the comment about their love ones for me to read on here. Different views from everyone makes it easier for others to understand. I love my mother with all my heart and I wish she was here this Mother's Day. But she's with God. Happy Mother's Day mama
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Interesting freqflyer! I have heard from many people about the final rebound. In 2013 it happened to our yellow lab who was 14 years old. Weeks before her death she could not walk eat or drink. Gave her water with an eye dropper. Lost tons of weight. Two days before she died she suddenly got up when my husband came home from work and asked to go for a walk. We immediately took her and she walked the long way (she knew where she wanted to go) for over 50 minutes. She still looked terrible and did not use the bathroom (because there was nothing in her system). She seemed to want to see everything that she had experienced since god gave her to us since she was 10 weeks old. We found it strange. She lead us back home and collapsed and never walked again. She died in less than 48 hours. She was seeing eye dog material but too smart to become one.
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Jill1lostsoul, sorry for your lost. Your friend would have died on the same time table with or with Hospice. With Hospice you know she didn't die in any horrible pain, and that in itself should be comforting.

And it is not unusual just before a person starts that final journey to rebound, be talkative, happy, eating, and even wanting to walk. That's nature's way of letting everyone say their good-byes. That has happen to many of us with our love ones.
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Oh I'm not alone. My best friend at age 55 went into hospice. The day she arrived she was happy and talking, I never got to speak to her again. They continued to increase her morphine with out discussing it with me even though I had power of attorney. I still cry daily even though it's now been over one year. My bright and beautiful best friend was never able to speak to me again. I feel guilty that I didn't stop that place from killing her.
Thank you,
One lost friend
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Corydee,

My mother passed three weeks ago. The morphine is for pain and the Ativan for anxiety.

It's so difficult at this stage.

Yes, they are comatose because they are dying with or without the drugs.

I'd prefer my loved one be pain free.
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Today I was reading what you have post and regards to your father's rushing his death. I am also experiencing the same thing with her mother I am also experiencing the same thing with my mother. I have my mom hospitalized and some doctor gave my mom two doses of morphine and was giving Ativan and also and now my mother is unresponsive. IT's like she's in a coma state and there's nothing I can do about it. BUT just wait until she passed.
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I am struggling here. I have mixed emotions and I have no where to turn.
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All, i am still having issues with the grief. I keep trying to think what i could have done differently. My life changed drastically last year when my mom had a stroke, 9/25/2016. She came through the stroke and had initially made progress, then she started to not participate, was discharged from one facility came home for three days and then to another because she could not take care of her self. she spent 2 months there only to be forced out, home 7 days and then hospitalized for kidney issues, home a week back in the hospital, diagnose as failure to thrive December 26, home on December 27 accepted into hospice care Jan2, 2017 and she passed on Jan23. I was there to take care of her and i was there when she took her last breath. It did not seem so peaceful, she was struggling to breathe, she was rattling and moaning. I can't get the image out of my head.

I struggle to sleep, i keep asking myself what i could i have done differently.

I appreciate the hospice nurses and the aides. I feel, heck i don't know what i feel.
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My father died a month ago at a rehab facility in Massachusetts. I strongly believe that my father was the victim of arrogance by a misguided rogue nurse practitioner who has her own philosophies about death and when it is time for someone to go. I believe he was killed by this facility. I was asked to approve morphine and ativan for him, when he was not in pain and not suffering, which I now know stops the breathing, but was not informed about at the time. I was also told by the nurse practitioner that they cancelled hospice and were going to quote "do it" with medication! I was primed to believe my father was dying when he was not. The health care proxy was invoked (removing his rights) the day after the nurse practitioner told me she had a conversation with my dad and he was completely lucid, and there are others who said the same thing! All this was against the backdrop of my father saying that he wanted to live! Also very troubling is that they did eventually call in hospice and when I called the hospice and said that I did not agree with what was going on, but would like to be included in the support and bereavement services they hung up on me!

My research has led me to understand that this is a widespread problem. This research includes my research online as well as to talking friends, including several doctor friends, who said this stealth euthanasia is a deeply troubling trend that is going on. So there is the rogue nurse practitioner issue as well is the hospice issue here. As you may know recently an indictment came down on 16 people running a hospice in Texas that was also overdosing patients resulting in death or serious harm. http://www.dallasnews.com/news/frisco/2017/02/28/frisco-man-15-others-indicted-medicare-hospice-scheme-used-human-life-vulnerable-stage

I don't understand why the national media is not covering this very troubling trend. I feel it is so important to make the public aware of what is going on which I believe is a sub-level of something in a gray area. I believe it is going on with the hopes that it will just become accepted into the main stream. It is stealth euthanasia. Forewarned is forearmed and I would have given anything if someone had made me aware before my father was in this situation as at that point I was too distraught to research or stand up to this bully nurse practitioner. Whether someone has 2 weeks, 6 months or two years to live no one has the right to take that away from them and hasten their death. It is more time they have to spend however they choose. They have not only destroyed my father by killing him, but they have left me deeply troubled by the whole horrendous act. Losing a loved one is hard enough, but under these conditions it is unbearable. We cannot stand for these killings
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Flymom, a persons timetable for death would have been the same with or without Hospice.

The doctors and nurses can tell if someone is in pain where us, the non-medical people, are not familiar with the signs, especially if one is semi-alert [due to prion disease, a disease that is rare].

My Mom was on Hospice and I was glad she was given this care. Her dementia wasn't causing her major pain, her back was from lying in bed as she could no longer sit up, and being oh so painfully thin.

Please note there is little data to support the belief that appropriate use of opioids hastens death in patients.
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