I was so happy when I found AC. I was in need of knowledge and support in my caregiver role.
I did find many supportive answers and have made in my heart friends.
But lately I read questions/answers that I know are not real.. How can someone be so cruel?
I know just ignore them! But they more than often ruin a question by making it become off topic..
I just don't know if ANY questions are real or not..
It's sad to think that another caregiver is where I was last year and needs support and some mean spirited person is answering their question with bad intentions....
Why do some people have to ruin a good thing?
Sheila, do you think it is really possible they can access us through our built in camera's? I know they've got their phishing techniques down to a science yet someone was telling me the other day they can also "peek" through our lenses?
Sorry... I would never ever visit an Obama website. Ever. He doesn't need a kill switch, he has his mighty pen. SORRY... jmo
nearly a year ago i cut her toenails with the same antique clippers that she cut mine with 50 yrs ago .
aunt is likely to die from dementia too as my mom did last aug .
Yes, I take care of my Mom. Yes, I believe in God. Yes, I am a real person and my situation is very real. Actually I wish it wasn't.
I've had very caring people post to me. There isn't any answers that can help......but I sure have been lifted up by some & even given hugs. Those "cyber hugs" mean a lot.
I am watching my Mom die......she is slowly declining. I admire her for being such a fighter. I hope I am as strong as she is when this is all said and done.
I mostly read here because I see so much hurt in some but they are strong willed enough to tough it out....That is what I'm trying to do. BE TOUGH.....BE STRONG......but we all know it just doesn't work out that way some days.
Dementia took my Mom a long time ago.......this stroke has laid her down. I feed her, I give her drinks with a syringe and I change her......I hold her in my arms and give her kisses. Her blue eyes still sparkle when she smiles. She doesn't know me, but she feels safe with me.
The other day I was cleaning & I found a journal made out to ME~yes, ME! It was dated 2006. Mom was writing about her life as a child in the depression, then when & how she met my Dad, when I was born, when my son was born and then her great grandkids. It was the best present ever! The last page was beginning to repeat and her handwriting was changing.......DAM N DEMENTIA~
Thank you for listening to me. I appreciate all of you and I appreciate all you are going thru. Life is just not fair sometimes.
how demeaning . its as bad as that hor in charge of yahoo mail calling us her anti spam hero every time we delete spam mail . fortunately that didnt last long .
Also, regarding advertisements here, none of the ads are trying to get your attention by spinning, jumping, twirling around.... and popping up in the middle of the page like I find that happening on so many newspaper websites. OMG those are so annoying, I feel like I need Dramamine in order to view the website.
Just read sodonewith whatever's bio.... really?
Sarcasm or not, it was not even remotely funny. Least not to me.
spam mail is becoming a real annoyance tho . every one of em wants to enlarge my penis . its as tho they know something they absolutely shouldnt ..
For the past 15 years I have been able to spot trolls the on newspaper political forums because the troll used what I called "rolodex comments", meaning those posters would just spin the rolodex and typed what they saw, no matter what we were discussing politically. Same material, myths, hearsays, rumors month after month.
I never even thought that Aging Care would have trolls being this site deals with such serious emotional issues. But each family dynamic is so very different, I would initially think this could be the real McCoy.
i tried your safety tip shelie , didnt get much from it ..
It's only now that I'm beginning to realize some are not legitimate, may be multiple alter egos, some are game playing, and who knows what the rest are.
It's a testament to THEIR dishonesty and other failings, not to ours that we didn't see their bad intents.
So just pat yourself on the back for being compassionate and not suspicious!
GA - maybe I should start working out stock options? I'm not all that "stock savvy" though....know anyone with Wall Street experience? Hmmmmm....
One afternoon last summer I snapped and threw her screaming *ss off my front lawn. Problem solved. I know she spies on me but I park out back all summer so she can't see what I'm doing - must make her crazier lol. Could be Dusty is my neighbour but no, she wouldn't go anywhere like AC as even Facebook is run by the CIA {rolling eyes}. Toxic people have no place in my life thanks.
I LOVE this site because I believe most of the folks on here ARE real......good, kind, caring, stressed out, bone-weary, solid, down-to-earth real. I think of many of you as Kindred Hearts too (well said A&A!) I've been "away" for a few weeks because I tend to get too emotionally invested and sometimes need to just step back for a while. Before I did that though I also found myself getting more and more confused and upset by a certain aforementioned (hopefully gone by now?) poster. I didn't know what to think!...just when I wanted to reach through my computer screen and b***h-slap her for being cold and mean-spirited toward someone I'd read another post from her that was actually pretty nice. One minute she seemed sensitive and insightful, the next she was ranting about the "end of times". I kept waffling between feeling sympathetic toward her, thinking wow! what a tough life she's had!....and rolling my eyes (as if she could see me) and saying "oh puh-leez! Get OVER yourself!" She claimed her mother was independently wealthy, yet she had the poor woman living with her in what she continually described as nothing short of a hovel, relying on food stamps and avoiding debt collectors. It didn't make any sense!! She spoke several times about being dissatisfied with AC and wanting to leave, but then she kept coming back! A few times I felt the urge to write an angry response after reading another one of her "holier-than-thou" posts. But I kept thinking about a sign I'd seen somewhere: "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always." I've had a little (emphasis on "little") experience with mental illness (my daughter's ex was bi-polar) and I got a sense that might be at the source of her erratic behavior. I also got a sense that maybe the "angry reaction" was exactly what she was fishing for, so I chose not to bite. I still felt like there was something hinky about her, but I also thought I was the only one, and maybe I was just reading too much into it. I'm glad (and relieved) to see how many of you shared the same misgivings I had. For me, it's just further validation that I'm in the right place. You guys are the best! ((((((HUGS))))) to all my *real* fellow caregivers! And I too hope Dusty gets some help.
BTW, I'm thinking of starting my own line of "Demon-B-Gone!" computer software. Think I may be on the verge of something really big here. Anybody want in?
And speaking of scripts ...Loved Osage County. They put the fun in dysfunctional, as they say.