Moved in with my dad as a temp thing while he went through cancer treatment. I have been here since last November. I am also raising my grandson. I gave up my job, my home, my fiance and I'm ticked off. I do not want to be here. This was supposed to be a temp thing and I'm done. But they told me if I leave I can be charged with elder abuse. I did not agree to do this full time permanent. I want my life back. The environment is not healthy for my grandson. What can I do?
Do you have legal and permanent custody of Mattie? I do not know the requirements of a woman's shelter but that would be a good place to start. His parents could be located by their social security numbers. if they are working. and made to may child support.
It all sounds tough but you deserve a life and the first step is to get out from where you are now and start over....one step at a time. God bless and good luck!
-Call Adult Protective Services and tell them of his abusive nature, and that you are unable to care for him any longer, because it leaves you unable to keep a job, which you need to care for your grandson.
-Seek shelter from this situtation in whatever way you must to protect your grandson. He has no defense against this situation - you are the only thing between him and all the trauma that can be (and already has been) inflicted.
-Don't feel guilty over this. You need to do whatever is necessary for your own protection and that of your grandchild. You could be found culpable for the damage done to your grandson's emotional well-being and his health if you don't take action immediately. And that is *exactly* what you need to stress to the Adult Protective Services office when you call them - that you fear for your own safety and, more importantly, that of your young grandson - and that you need help getting Dad placed in a nursing home or other facility where they can provide the care he needs - because you obviously can't do it.
Also i dont know US law but there is no way you can be held responsible for your dad if you choose to leave who told you this?
Keep in touch and we hope you sort this out soon its not fair on your grandson he should be in a happy enviroment. Where are his parents? who goes off and leaves a little boy? very sad but hes lucky to have you.
There are a lot of smart cookies here than can give you info about how to get him into a home. Unfortunately not me, my situation is very different. I adore my Mother (but hate the disease) and am very well taken care of by my brothers, who along with me and Mom have decided to keep Mom home as long as we can.
Hang in there. Soon the caring smart people here will give you great advice.
He is still quite ill? what are the problems you are having with him? mum has dementia so its different but just as hard.
Yes maybe you can tell us more about your situation!