My father passed away this weekend. As we started trying to help my mother prepare for visitors, family members discovered something I have been asking for help with for years. What the rest of my siblings have referred to as pack rat issues are really serious hoarding problems complete with a huge mouse infestation and cleanliness issues.The house is very large and is in the country. My father has been in the hospital for over 7 months and the house has become worse during that time.It was already packed with "stuff" but was cleaner until the last year. I have begged mom to let me help but she will not and becomes angry. I will be mom's primary caretaker from now on since everyone else lives far away. My siblings have become hostile when I have asked for help, but I know something must change. I have asthma and cannot spend the night or any length of time with her in her house although I love her dearly and would like to do so. My father was aware of the problem and tried to change things prior to his strokes. How can I handle this situation? I am grieving for my father and want to help my mother in a loving way.
Praying for comfort and peace for all of you.
I like lhardebeck's idea of hiring someone to come in to clean your mother's house. If you have asthma, you are likely allergic to the droppings of the mice and this could aggravate your asthma. You could look in the want ads in the newspaper, or go on craigslist. But for now, just deal with your grief in losing your father. This is a big load for you and it just happened this weekend. God bless.....
Just some thoughts ...
Condolences on losing your father.
Pattie
my brother in law had to send mom away for the weekend and he tried to get the back bdrm cleaned up . she had piles piles of clothes there well a whole weekend turned into one night cuz she just threw a fit at my daughter about going home . my daughter had to take her home this mornin , bro in law is upset about it cuz he wasnt done yet . it realy is hard .
im guessing just go with the flow . when shes sleeping go do something that you can do . call a friend ?
again sorry for ur loss .
maybe get you some cats tooo they love mices ,