She was only 80. my 3 sibs wanted her to go home, I'm glad that didn't happen. they had no plan in place and had not thought things through at all. she was going to go on hospice but they couldn't agree on that either. we had a family meeting at the nh 2 days before she died and it was awful. unfortunately, even thought I had really worked on her - she had not signed a poa. so the whole family had to come to agreement about her care. got ugly. It feels really sad. she certainly wasn't the world's best mother, but it feels strange to say my mother has died. I'm an orphan. ;-( so we all meet tomorrow and try to agree on the arrangements, mom had purple cross so at least some of it is taken care of. I'll be glad when this part is all over. my partner and my mom had become quite good friends, we went over to help with paperwork, housework etc. my 3 siblings like my partner but got angry that she knew about finances. even tho my mom asked for the help! did I say I'll be glad when this is over?? and to top it all off our very best friend is 50 miles away with ovarian cancer. I've come to this site a lot since my mom became ill and it's been very helpful - sometimes just so I could say, 'well, at least it's not that bad for us!'. thanks guys for the help
I hope the family drama can be held to a minimum stress level and that you will soon have peace in your life.
hugs to you ,,