My mother is currently placed in a SNF and we had a meeting today because the facility wants to remove her due to the verbal abuse my mother has towards the staff.
My mother has dementia and she is not exactly kind towards the staff. She is pleasant with the residents, but with the staff she is ruthless. I have spoken with her doctors and they have told me this type of behavior is fairly common and if she is not physically abusive they see no reason for medication especially if she is only targeting the staff. As they told me, medication will not alter how she feels towards the staff.
So, what exactly are my options? Can they really remove my mother because she is verbally abusive to the staff? What else can I do besides medication. Am I in the wrong to thinking the staff is being a tad soft so to speak.
Yes, the facility is correct. Clearly they respect and care about their staff and that's a pretty rare thing when dealing with a NH, MC, AL, or rehab facility.
If your mother is in a decent place and is getting good care allow her to be medicated instead of being moved somewhere else where the care may not be as good.