the F.O.G. can be thick. its not easy to navigate out of. Sometimes people stumble for a while to get out of the F.O.G. Sometimes therapy/ help is needed.
Those of us in F.O.G. - I totally agree - we MUST get out of it. But its not so easy to implement as some suggest. The F.O.G. has been beaten into us over decades.
We MUSt do it to get out . But it takes time, work and reinforcment. Let's support each other.
Please dont slam us for NOT instantly getting out of the F.O.G. . We are trying hard. For those long timers through Burnout, its easy to say " read up on F.O.G. and get out of it". but its not so easy to implement. Take it easy on us. Lets all support each other .
https://outofthefog.website/
Making the decision to tackle the beast is the hard part. That can take people YEARS or decades to accomplish. You did it in record time. NOW is when it takes time to put all the plans in place as to how to facilitate the changes you want to accomplish to save YOUR sanity so you're not jumping thru hoops to please a man who cannot be pleased. Thats the goal which you're well on your journey towards.
My mother tortured me for decades with her b.s. and I tried very hard to please her, for some odd reason. I always fell short, too. It took me a long time to arrive at the decision that it was impossible TO please her so WHY was I trying so hard? Then I backed off, but not till I had a lot of cuts and bruises and scars on my psyche, let me tell you. You've done a lot better in a shorter period of time than I ever did.
Keep up the hard work. Wading thru the muck and the mire to arrive at a better, more empowered place in your life is always worth it.
Agree it has been beaten and programmed into us for decades. Indeed it does take time, work, awareness and reinforcement to let the fog lift. However, it is soooooo worth it though once you start the journey and stay on it. I think it is nothing short of life changing, and never too late to start.
Lean on this group for support. Vent away when you need to.
You have my support.
Wishing you the very best as you continue on in your caregiving journey.