My mom has dementia and I have little to no help most weeks. She crys all day every day. She has never been a happy person but now it is awful. She lashes out at me every afternoon and the doctors have tried everything medication wise. She abuse pain meds for years so she has a huge tolerance for drugs. I would like for her to take her night time meds at a decent hour so I can at least get some sleep but she fights me every night. She wants to stay up all night. She is getting more than I can handle but she has no money and I am afraid to put her in a nursing home.
Placing her in a care center is NOT abandoning her. You will still love her, visit her, and advocate for her. That advocating starts with getting her on Medicaid and researching the facilities that accept Medicaid in your area.
Good luck! And let us know the progress.