I am so very disappointed and sad. My family was always very close. I have two brothers. We always got together with Mom and Dad and each other.
I was had the Power of Attorney for everything, and handled things after her death.
One of my brothers had been living in my Mom and Dad's house for about 18 years, rent free. He didn't have to pay any bills, etc. Once she died I had to ask him to move out so that I could sell the house and split it 3 ways. He never made an effort to work or save any money. So naturally after it was sold and I gave him his portion of the money, he does not talk to me anymore. We used to do everything together.
My other brother is married and he and his wife do their own thing and have always been pretty private. This brother texts me about news info occasionally as I do him, but we don't talk on the phone or see each other, especially now because of the pandemic.
I am single, no children, no any close friends in my city. I have been hunkered down because of Covid, am not working, and am very lonely.
Not only did I lose my Mother, but I lost my older brother because of the house sale, and seldom talk to my younger brother. I'm always the one to reach out. I would NEVER have thought things would end up this way NEVER in a million years. I am soooooo sad and hurt.
After talking to other people I would say for some families falling out seems to be part of the grieving process. It is easy to take offence and easy to blame others for the way we feel. If you throw in any mental health issues it all gets worse.
I hope you manage to get a reconciliation. It is not your fault. Hang onto that and good luck!
Even stranger is the situation in my husband's family. This extended family always bragged about how close they were. My MIL constantly talked about the close family. They seemed to only gather at funerals. When MIL died, only a couple of them showed up, which I understand due to Covid, but some of these cousins claiming to be so close never even sent a sympathy card, called or emailed my husband! MIL would be livid! This after we always were there for them when their parents died. I just don't understand this. I look at it this way....it is THEIR loss to cut off from us!!
I am so sorry that you are struggling.
Do you think you need to discuss the meds with your doctor to tell him/her they aren’t working as well as you’d like them too?
Covid has made our lives more complicated and difficult. Everyone wants things to get back to normal.
I hope things will improve for you as soon as possible. Take care.
friends to lean on if needed. It scares me. I don't have any desire to do much anymore. I pretty much sleep half the day and watch tv the rest of the day.
I eat in between. I have no motivation to do anything. I do take some anti depressants but they are not really helping this situation. I need a life, I need
others in my life that are just as eager to see me or talk to me as I am them.
I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm just sick of this. I am soooo tired too, tired
of doing nothing.
I don’t wish to share the details right now but trust me when I say you are not alone.
Many families go through this. I’m so sorry that you are struggling with this situation. It hurts.
I will only add one more thing, you cannot change or control how they feel about anything. You can only control your feelings on issues.
The arrival of Covid has done the same thing to everyone. Our lives as we knew them are gone and we have to adjust, and it takes a lot of effort.
This is the time for you to adjust. Your brothers have their lives, and you need to make one for yourself. In the era of Covid, it's going to be tough to do, but I suggest you try checking out various classes, online meet-ups (not necessarily dates), and other ways to meet people. Try to find a group that likes to do something you like -- hiking, painting, reading.
Your brothers will always still be your family, but your family has changed now, and you may have to broaden your social circle outside your traditional family. Unfortunately, we can't go back to how things were before Covid or before we lost our loved ones, so instead of looking back, we have to look ahead.
Good luck to you.
As far as I know they are together. My brother called my nephew at closing and let him know he was getting the proceeds from the sale of Mom's house and his son came running. My brother is too naive to think his son is hanging around to take advantage of the little money my brother received. We did not receive a lot. It was an old house that needed repairs. My older brother made no effort to work to earn money and save for his future. He could have bought out my other brother and myself for very little.
He wanted me to move in with him and sell my place, but when I figured out the costs compared to what I am paying now, I would not have saved any money moving in with him. I would have been the one paying for any repairs, cable, wifi, a/c, etc.. Again, he would have been the one to reap the benefits of me moving in with him. Sad situation.
You used to do everything together? How, in that case, did you manage to avoid discussing his future?
Where is he now?