So here I am, age 65, delighted that my mother is still with me but exhausted by the million things involved in care giving for a 93 year old. Having no siblings, no significant other, and no kids, I just look at her (my father passed away in December from Parkinson's and that was an awful way to go) and look at myself and think: Oh boy. This is really the highway to Hell. There's not a whole lot of anything to look forward to and I'll have to navigate this alone (with the exception of a lawyer, I'm not going to have a ton of money for hired "hands"). The future looks pretty dark. Not suicidal, but there sure doesn't seem a lot to look forward to. THANKS FOR THE VENT! :)
Then the insurance wouldn’t pay for 2, so she was placed in a swanky assisted living.
Her lawyer and probate judge sided with me over greedy family members angry I spent HER money on her.
Hiring and firing was work, but I wasn’t going to face anymore abuse from her.
I used “Pea pod” for groceries so I controlled the money and knew what was purchased.
One agency stole and I did not pay the final $7,000.00 bill. I mailed the police report with the invoice.
I never heard from them again.
I was there during hospice which lasted 3 days.
Its a thankless job and you are a wonderful daughter enduring this for so long.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
It will ruin your health over time.
Don’t allow these circumstances to steal your joy. You will find your smile once again if you concede to help. 💪🏼
Be well, sweet one~ 💜
Are you able to have help from an occasional Adult Day Care visit for her? Or, maybe a Nursing student to help once in a while?
I love helping him but I really need some time to take care of myself. I am not married and don't have any children. It sure is a lonely place to be!
Make sure you're taking care of yourself, too, while you go about giving your mom the best care you can. I suggest a self-care checklist, and to find any way you can to get more active in things you enjoy, and practice mindfulness/mediation to gain acceptance of things -- including your own feelings of apathy.
Just my thoughts. It's ok to vent, too. We all need it sometimes.
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative." https://youtu.be/5Qk9o_ZeR7s