Hi AC Forum,
I feel like I run the gamut of emotions on a weekly basis. I think that is a difficult side of this caregiving. Not being able to fully satisfy - or not being able to satisfy for what should be a normnal period of time. And on the same token know that each day you go down this path you just running to the finish line.
It's the craziest and horrible life as I am not able to live my life, yet I have a hard time thinking of my mom living with less. Also not being the face of which she says to at first seeing her and asking her how she is, "Better now that I see you!" Knowing that you are the comfort in their sight. Yet what it takes from one feels enormous - emotionally, monetarily, physically.
How are you doing?
LastOne
Erin... Same for you... aHang in ther with us... We'll keep venting here!
Love you guys!.... 💓🌻🎶😘
UGH!!!
That speaks for who you are...!
And forget about Refusing help with the ADL's, as she Will need those, when you are out for a few hours on your own! And Yes, we understand that your Mom doesn't like having other people or strangers in to care for her, but TOUGH! It's You we are worried about, and you must get help for YOU! Your Mom Will Adjust! You can try arranging your time out of the home, after you have taken care of her morning routine, have her lunch all ready, and leave her with the senior sitter, from 11:00am to 3:00pm, this way, you will get a solid 4 hours out if the home a couple of times a week, to shop my catch a movie, lunch with friends, or just plain old You Time! Start with a dry run, having the sitter their caring for her, while your away elsewhere in the home, or out working in the yard or garage, close by, but out of site. Again, she will adjust, and tell her it is not an option! You Need Time to get things done!
Another option is (or I have found) is going into your local Senior Center. They often have one of those cork boards on the wall, where local "Senior helpers" advertise their services. Yes, it may cost a bit, but it is worth your sanity, to get out on your own once and awhile. They aren't that expensive, but you do need to interview them, and check into their background, licensing, bonding, first-aid certified and such. Also if they are CPR certified, in case your Mom is not a DNR (do not resuscitate).
You've just got to find ways to get a break. Also, speak with the AOA, about getting some RESPITE CARE for you! Sometimes there are waver plans, that assist you on getting some time off, whether someone comes into stay with your Mom, ore she goes into a career center. It is a must, as you sound as if you are suffering from Severe Caregiver Burnout!
Good luck, and please, look into some of the suggestions that folks here have given you! Take Care! Stacey B
John... Keep on trying... You'll stumble on to something... Talking to a lot of people will no doubt connect you or point you in the right direction... Keep us posted. All the best!
2 is it a career with not enough recognition?
3 Or is it a calling. Working for God. He provides all. : ))