Hi AC Forum,
I feel like I run the gamut of emotions on a weekly basis. I think that is a difficult side of this caregiving. Not being able to fully satisfy - or not being able to satisfy for what should be a normnal period of time. And on the same token know that each day you go down this path you just running to the finish line.
It's the craziest and horrible life as I am not able to live my life, yet I have a hard time thinking of my mom living with less. Also not being the face of which she says to at first seeing her and asking her how she is, "Better now that I see you!" Knowing that you are the comfort in their sight. Yet what it takes from one feels enormous - emotionally, monetarily, physically.
How are you doing?
LastOne
I think your mom’s most meaningful accomplishment was to raise a good man. And I truly believe those who are good to their parents, are good in everything they do, and successful. Hope you’re able to re-start your life now with your heart filled with peace John. God bless you!
I am so very sorry for your loss. You have been a wonderful son. If most men could be like you, what a wonderful world we would live in. You showed the utmost love for your Mom, and God is fully aware of your labor of love. I hope and pray that you find comfort in that you endured through one of the most difficult things in life. I pray that the Lord comforts your heart through your grief process. And I hope that you will be able to carry on as your Mom would want you to, especially after all that you have done for her.
Please don't be a stranger, we care about you and want to make sure how you doing.
Allow yourself to feel and lean on the Lord.
I will keep you in my prayers,
You need to tell that sorry brother of yours you need a break, and that if you keep this up you're going to have a nervous break down. God bless you sister! Like you, I can't stay gone too long from my mom. I RARELY go out at night but the one night I did go out to a Mexican restaurant with a friend, somehow my brother (who lives in another city) found I was there and told me to go home quickly, my mom was worried to death, crying. I had told her days prior, the morning of and even from the restaurant. We have got to take some time to ourselves or we'll crack!
When he asked me to make a donation, sometimes I do...but I have now taken to writing remove my name from your list if it comes to the house, and I write return to sender/refused on the envelopes I intercept at the PO. It's just got to stop. I am very worried that if we lose dad and need to get help in to watch mom while I work until I can retire, that we will need all the money we can have. My mom was also constantly sending coupons in for magazine subscriptions. I begged the clearinghouses to please stop. It seems to be less now.
Sigh.
Thank goodness I can come to this website for insight & perspective without judgment.
please reconsider meds, I think it is the only thing that has kept me from going off a cliff