Hi AC Forum,
I feel like I run the gamut of emotions on a weekly basis. I think that is a difficult side of this caregiving. Not being able to fully satisfy - or not being able to satisfy for what should be a normnal period of time. And on the same token know that each day you go down this path you just running to the finish line.
It's the craziest and horrible life as I am not able to live my life, yet I have a hard time thinking of my mom living with less. Also not being the face of which she says to at first seeing her and asking her how she is, "Better now that I see you!" Knowing that you are the comfort in their sight. Yet what it takes from one feels enormous - emotionally, monetarily, physically.
How are you doing?
LastOne
We were retiring at 50 in Michigan our kids all grown, tend years later her we are. He wont do anything. He's sloppy he doesnt care. We sleep in separate beds because he has leg spasms. He shows hardly any affection. We'll be married 15 years in oct. We had 2 weddings because of my accident. Which didn't do anything buy lay me up a little while. Couldnt return to my job. Compare us and he could still get a customer service job which he was in. He doesnt even want to drive so hed have to get his license. He just doesn't seem to care. He says he does I've been told try for help which I may. I just know I cant keep living like this much longer.
I was such a positive person, my mom quadriplegic these aides want to do what they want,once again I have to look for aide, we are tired , yes will lie I feel like I want to walk out at times but its my mom, yes she has kids they dont help
only us under stand this stress
I agree, re-evaluate after the crises and prayers for everyone.
How am I doing. The best I can. I am a fighter and a survivor. It is not easy. Somedays it is very hard, and the reality is, I as a caregiver that works and a caregiver that goes home and works, it is double duty, and overwhelming.
I also have some medication financial needs, which have made it near impossible, but the way I look at my life is this.
"Step by step, in every way, make a difference in a person's day"
We all have a choice, choose your glass half full, and when you are having a bad day, there are many fabulous people on here, they know who they are they have been nothing short of excellent ears for me.
Just recently my LO went into assisted living after a fall. I was literally at my breaking point caring for her, so it’s a relief to have her safe and cared for by someone else.
Sad to say that but it’s the truth. My physical and mental health has tanked these last few years and no one who hasn’t been a caregiver fully understands the sacrifice!
My heart goes out to you.
Self care- walk, read, eat healthy, therapy, good friends, family, do as many joyful things in your life that you can. I’m finally getting a chance to breathe again because things eventually change for all of us. Stay strong and make some decisions about your life that keep you healthy. I know it’s easier said than done. I would have gone on indefinitely until I collapsed or she needed care. There’s no easy answers. Sending good vibes your way!
You are a really great Lady and The Lord will Bless You and reward You for all of the suffering that You are having to endure over a long period of time. When I spotted Your Reply of one word I became curious and wondered hence I looked through Your Profile and I became appaled, horrified, and saddened at the treatment You received from this Man. Most People would have run for the hills and abandoned Him but You stood firm to Care for this Man which leaves me in awe of You. Your courage honor and loyalty is so admirable and rare no a days. Remember cmdcwc this Journey will end as nothing can continue forever and one day You will be free again so look after Your health, and take good Care of Your Self also. Be kind to Your Self too. To me You are a Hero Caregiver and I do admire You so.
I just realized this comment was written in 2015. OK, so I'm livid and maybe a little irrational.
How are you doing? This is Bronish responding to your most beautiful post from July 2019.
I only visit this site occasionally because I'm still grieving the loss of my dear, sweet, angel of a mother...it's hard sometimes to come here...but I read amazing comments and stories such as yours, and take courage and even inspiration to reply to some. I'm praying for you....the caregiving is always a challenge, but the final outcome of caregiving is usually a major loss, which changes our orbit, and our lives are never the same after that.
I'm holding you in my prayers, Earlybird. Shalom. 💖🕊️💖