My mom is reaching the end of her battle. Probably days, not weeks or months. She has a wonderful group of caregivers, friends, and family, she is being kept comfortable by her hospice team, and she is in her home; so we couldn't ask for much more at this point.
She has surprised us before, so there is always hope, but her body really is just starting to shut down. I don't really have a question. I just felt a need to reach out.
Stay strong and stay in touch; we all do care.
So sorry her time could be near.
You and your family have made all the plans she needed all this time, and have done well, it appears.
There is just no planning for the sadness of these times.
But like you said, there is always hope.
The will to survive amazes me, yet people get so tired. Still praying for you and your family 💗.
Mom is still holding on (thank you, methadone and morphine). She had a couple of days of "rebound" where she actually was able to get out of bed, eat at the table (tiny bits), sit in her backyard enjoying the birds, and go for a stroll (in her wheelchair) around the block. I think she might have put everything she had into those couple of days with both my brother and me here, and now she's back in bed just content to hold our hands.
I'm sitting in her back room right now, and I'd like to share some of the little sayings on sticky notes she has posted all over the room:
"Life is short, so forgive quickly. Believe slowly. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably. Never regret anything that makes you happy. And have a wonderful journey!!!"
"We do not stop playing because we are old, we grow old because we stop playing."
"Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, and leave the rest to God."
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."
"Enjoy life NOW! It has an expiration date."
"First you're young, then you're middle-aged, and then you're wonderful!"
"To live in the hearts we leave behind is to not die."
"Once a year, go someplace you've never been before."
"Live a good, honorable life. Then, when you are older, think back, and you'll be able to enjoy it a second time."
"In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."
Thank you for letting me share!
My mom, over the past few years, had hidden notes in books for me to find and it has been a comfort. She passed away in hospice right before Christmas. Hugs to you and your mom.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I would feel the same as you, being grateful that she is no longer suffering. Now the grieving process officially begins. It’s not easy but a sad part of our lives. Hugs.
Be gentle with yourself too. Sending a huge hug.