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It's generally best not to mention suspected dementia. Does she have high blood pressure or another health issue? You can make an appointment with her doctor and tell her it's for her checkup or to get her medication refills. Then, write the doctor a note ahead of time and tell him or her that you suspect dementia.
The reason for this is that people will generally listen to a doctor, but they hate it when their family suggests that they have cognitive issues.
I don't want to offer hope that the doctor can do a lot to help her if she does have dementia, but there are other issues that can cause these symptoms such as urinary tract infections and medication reactions. She should have a good checkup with all of her meds checked. Then the doctor can recommend what to do about cognitive issues if that's the problem. Good luck! Please let us know how it goes, Carol
we have no new discussion or topic just some legal advice as to what to do at this point to help take care of our mother , my brother wont spend the time or money to do so .
my dad died leaving a well paying realistate company to the family of five, no will . the only boy will not share to take care of the mother there more than enough to take care of our mother how should we handle this the girls do have the time or money to pay for her our mother is over 90 years old.
To everyone with this problem - there is no shame is gettng help. In fact, it is necessary. There comes a point in some circumstances where the caregiver can no longer do the job, There are ALFs, NHs and home care workers, respite and so on. Get whatever level of help/care you need, and let the guilt go. You have done what you can, and likely gone the extra mile of ten, and do not deserve to carry the extra load called guilt.
You should admit her at old age care home they can provide better nursing care to her. Aged care home offer every care facility is unique, they all provide proper want to those in the community when they need it most. You should think about it now.
You are dealing with an impossible situation for one person to handle. Please contact her doctor about inhome health providers that might give you assistance and as suggested look for other services that may be available in your area.
You have to take care of yourself first in order to take care of your Mom! Sometimes the difficult decision of a nursing home is the best option for the whole family. God bless!
No you can't do it anymore. I had the same decision to make with my Dad a year ago. He is very self centered and has no notice of everything I do or have done for him, but the guilt of it all still weighs on me everyday. We have not abandoned our parents! We did as much as we could for as long as we could and as long as we visit them A LOT and try to laugh with them then I think we've done our best.
I am 69 yrs. old and trying to care for my 91yr old Mother with dementia. I am very sick myself and finally had to put her in Nursing Home. Now I feel so guilty, like I abandoned her. She just wants to come home, but I just cannot do it anymore. Do not have the strength and do not have anyone to help me. Was I wrong to put her in the home?
Of course you are exhausted! Please go to your state's Web site and look under aging services. You should find a version of the Family Caregiver Support Program. They should be able to help you find some respite care and even support groups in your area. There should be a contact phone number or email address. Please use it. You sound like you can really use some help.
Also, please keep coming back and reading the posts here. We can't fix your problem, but we do understand. Carol
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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The reason for this is that people will generally listen to a doctor, but they hate it when their family suggests that they have cognitive issues.
I don't want to offer hope that the doctor can do a lot to help her if she does have dementia, but there are other issues that can cause these symptoms such as urinary tract infections and medication reactions. She should have a good checkup with all of her meds checked. Then the doctor can recommend what to do about cognitive issues if that's the problem.
Good luck!
Please let us know how it goes,
Carol
You have to take care of yourself first in order to take care of your Mom! Sometimes the difficult decision of a nursing home is the best option for the whole family. God bless!
Also, please keep coming back and reading the posts here. We can't fix your problem, but we do understand.
Carol