My husband is incontinent both ways. I can't find a diaper product which keeps the bed dry at night. If asked if he needs to go to the bathroom, he'll always say no. He just goes in the diapers all day. A friend told me that he may have lost the sensation of needing to go. That thought keeps me from getting angry about the situation. But it is very unpleasant to deal with. Does anyone have helpful advice? I am worn out, and the washer probably feels that way too.