Always is when I go away for the weekend with my family...
You can guarantee when I come back he's "been ill". EVERY TIME. So I phoned him - first sentence "I've been ill". Like its my fault because I went away!
STILL not taking all his medication that the GP gave him so I offer ZERO sympathy. Basically, wants me to tell him how he can feel better - "Take the meds the GP has given you Dad, if that fails then go an see you're GP but I'm not a doctor."
His words - "I desperately need you to visit the weekend." "I've got no food in the house" (Brother lives literally 5 mins drive from him - I live 35-40 mins. Brother is probably laying low). Anyway, he knows my car is in the garage so I'm struggling for transport and he knows my wife works weekends so may need our other car. So I tell him I can't promise. Anyone would have thought I'd told him I'd murdered the family next door.
Apparently, I'm "letting him down" and "need to arrange something", and "wife needs to understand". Of course the standby offer of home delivery groceries is not good enough - he doesn't want to spend the £30 minimum - they have to be hand delivered by me!
I've tried setting boundaries, I've said no can do, I've tried ignoring, I've tried just not doing. Give him his due he's relentless in his quest to get me to do what he wants!
And "Smothered" is good too!
LOL. Obviously a typo!
Geeeeeez, sorry. I’m telling you that my autocorrect has a mind of it’s own and I think that it wants to make me look stupid!
I suppose that I should get into the habit of proofreading my messages after they post.
Of course it should read show!
My oldest daughter has Crohn’s disease. It started out as ulcerative colitis. It’s extremely painful. It’s a frustrating situation.
I hope your MIL is feeling better.
That’s funny! I only saw the commercials for it.
My youngest daughter saw a couple of episodes and told me that the saw is crazy!
Hahaha, she may have seen the episode that you are talking about.
Yes, we have that stupid 90 day fiancé show here too! Hahaha
You know what blows my mind is when I hear about women marrying convicts in jail! How desperate are these women to get married? Geeeeeeez!
Well, if they are marrying prisoners, your dad should be able to find a woman?
How would his profile read on his personal ad? LOL 😂
You should write one for us to read and have a good laugh!
Somebody alt to testify,
Glory
Has your wife talked to the docs about how much etoh she is consuming and her inability/refusal to get herself to the docs when she has symptoms (NOT like your dad). She is showing signs of cognitive decline of some sort and that wants investigating.
I know dealing with your dad has turned you into a cynic, but your MIL is a different kettle of fish.
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ulcerative-colitis/
Strangely, it doesn't mention attention-seeking behaviour among the causes but perhaps you can give them a heads-up on that.
I can get him sent to north america if you can sort the green card. Do you have the TV show "90 day fiance"? I'll pack his bags
Yeh I dunno how my wife and I end up with two of them now. MIL has been awful the last few months - worse than my Dad,
Official diagnosis appears to be Ulcerative Colitis now which I guess is similar. A friend of mine has it and its not pleasant and you do need to think a bit.
Problem is, MIL comes to our house and eats. Goes home and then can't be bothered to eat hardly at all. When at our house drinks 3-4 bottles of beer a day, probably even more at home. Its not great way to be. Along with taking painkillers on an empty stomach.... Previously she smoked heavily for 40 years. Its a recipe for disaster to be honest.
Yeh was ill to start with but the pretty obviously, decided she wasn't getting enough attention so went on a bit of a "hunger strike". Got weaker and weaker and because of this ended up in hospital.
Thats why wife, quite likely, is so annoyed with her. This could have been trip to doctors, get antibiotics maybe, steroids, take it easy, eat sensibly etc and she'd have been ok.
But she refused to go the doc and most definitely did not eat sensibly or look after herself. Interestingly, shes in hospital, eating and feeling better. EXACTLY like my Dad has been in the past...
*Don't need that
*Return it
Disgusted, LOL 😂😂😂
Every item I brought my Mum in hospital I was told all three!!! Every. Single. Time.
The nurses said get nightwear. So I bought the cheapest I could find (under $10 for pities sake).
Good luck with your's
Note there are 2k comments and counting, no way anyone is going to read through all that! It's also not just about food - that's just an excuse to say he needs Paul to drop everything and hurry over. It can be a letter in the mail, a bill for something, made up "illness", whatever he can think up to make Paul jump and run.
Anyway, the bigger issue is control. He generally has plenty of food (Paul buys extra sometimes to be sure, which dad grumbles about - means he can't call in a few days or a week and say he NEEDS Paul to come right away! He also has another son who lives nearby who can bring supplies too.) He refuses to accept delivery. It would be sad to order stuff and have it delivered for it to sit and spoil on the doorstep. He also doesn't want to spend an extra nickel (what is the low denomination there now, post-Euro, a bob? shilling?) on anything! Sure, a few extra bucks to have food and supplies delivered vs Paul having to drive 40+ minutes each way to buy the items and deliver them! It would make sense, but his dad isn't into making sense (and no, he doesn't have dementia either), he's into making Paul kowtow to his demands.
It's all about control. Hence our comments encouraging push back - we're not trying to be rude, but sometimes it takes making a firm stand for those who are like this.
Well wishes to you for your dad and what - now your MIL?
It may also be due to cognitive decline that she didn't figure out that she should check with her doctor, not her daughter about her stomach pain.
Hope that you don’t mind us finding a bit of humor in your situation.
My FIL had diverticulitis. It is an uncomfortable condition and fairly common as you say.
I hope your MIL starts to feel better soon and things will go more smoothly for you and your wife.
"Ordered that phone for xmas!"
*Too much money
*Don't need that
*Return it
Jeez imagine this pair getting married.....
My wife and I always we'd LOVE to emigrate to get away from family...
MIL is normally OK. Shes sort of low level annoying but generally good. Shes upped her game this time!
Been googling diverticulitis - it seems pretty common in the elderly. Not mega serious. Pretty sure a lot of the reason to admit is because shes made herself so ill by not eating..... Its going to be a shock to her now stuck in hospital with no visitors.
lllama - hope eye is better.
Want to help Beatty and I plan a wedding?
We are going to marry off Paul’s dad to his wife’s mom!
Are you in? We will give you part of the commission and we hope Paul and his wife will throw in a tip.
We will toast the happy couple with champagne 🥂!
How is your eye doing?
Too funny! 😂. Okay, important question? Will Paul be the best man and his wife be the matron of honor? LOL
Paul can invite us and we can toast with champagne 🥂!
Hey, I think we have a new career as wedding planners!
My friend’s daughter is a wedding planner for the wealthy in our city. Her weddings costs a million dollars and up! She makes a hefty fee and earns a lot of money. Not now, during Covid but pre Covid days she did very well!
Paul’s dad is stingy with money so we won’t make a large commission but maybe we can get a bonus from Paul and his wife for marrying off their parents! LOL
Honeymoon at the nearest Retirement Home. All meals provided. Films in the lounge. Happy hour on Fridays. Pedicures included.
Great suggestion! Okay, I just had a wicked thought. How about an engagement ring from Paul’s dad to his wife’s mom? Hahaha 😂. They would each have someone to complain to!