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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Every circumstance is a finesse between resources and personalities.... Teebee, I am with you. Even if we believe acting in good faith it can blow up on us...
My mom has be living in my care for 4 years now. Not a single family member has visited her since Easter. When we lived 3000 miles away I understood, but I moved her back close and still no visitors. If I bring her to them, they do not really engage with her. It is sad. But it also helps me to know that they are in their own process of saying good bye and protecting their hearts. I will begin to make decisions with that knowledge. Kinda allows me to be a little less heroic and a little more pragmatic.
Yes, the meat of the matter is absent here.... but this statement alone says ssssooooooo much... maybe because this was exactly my circumstance... I lived right around the corner from my parents and all seemed good with the world... a symbiotic relationship and I was able to keep an "eye on them" from a very comfortable distance... Then... all hell broke loose when my father died suddenly and I realized she was not able to stay in her own home alone... emotionally, physically and financially...
Before my father passed I did talk about "what if" scenarios with my siblings and I recall being adamant that they would not move in with me... I remember even saying my life would end... Well guess what.. we also "pictured" my mother passing before my father... my mother basically is a wonderful person and I love her to death .... but she has this passive- aggressive manipulative side to her... she is with me now over 2 years and I feel like my life has ended sometimes... Yes, she lives with me...
How prepared is their home for them to age in place? Is it cluttered? How are the door frames ? Wide enough for the paramedics gurney? Can the kitchen be locked out of-- if they start cooking in the night? Many homes have open floor plans these days and it is a safety nightmare. How are the garage and driveway and all the paths of ingress and egress if they start having mobility problems? How will you bathe them?
Once you do all the math of all the home modifications it takes to let someone to age in place for anywhere from 1 year to 10-- often the math does not work out. $60,000 in remodels-- that the next guy is not interest in-- is $500-$5000 a month towards the next place.
Really consider places that are already laid out and build right, like independent living apartments. Grocery delivery, housekeeping and hair cuts are all worked out. Move them in there with minimal junk and it will go much better. You can keep the family homestead with a young adult living there, as you strip it over a few years.
I recently lost my 91 year old father who was living independently in his home up until the last 8 months or so. My sister was the caregiver by default because she was the only family member living close to him. She, for the most part was successful in helping him to keep his independence but she is now totally exhausted and emotionally spent as result of her noble efforts. It would have been much easier if we could have employed a professional home care company to assist my sister but we were not impressed with the choices in that area. My recommendation would be to seek assistance before you end up sacrificing your life and lifestyle to help your parents. It's okay to have outside assistance if you like and trust the care that they can provide. Do it before you get too caught up in the situation.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Teebee, I am with you.
Even if we believe acting in good faith it can blow up on us...
My mom has be living in my care for 4 years now. Not a single family member has visited her since Easter. When we lived 3000 miles away I understood, but I moved her back close and still no visitors.
If I bring her to them, they do not really engage with her. It is sad. But it also helps me to know that they are in their own process of saying good bye and protecting their hearts. I will begin to make decisions with that knowledge. Kinda allows me to be a little less heroic and a little more pragmatic.
Before my father passed I did talk about "what if" scenarios with my siblings and I recall being adamant that they would not move in with me... I remember even saying my life would end... Well guess what.. we also "pictured" my mother passing before my father... my mother basically is a wonderful person and I love her to death .... but she has this passive- aggressive manipulative side to her... she is with me now over 2 years and I feel like my life has ended sometimes... Yes, she lives with me...
Is it cluttered?
How are the door frames ? Wide enough for the paramedics gurney?
Can the kitchen be locked out of-- if they start cooking in the night? Many homes have open floor plans these days and it is a safety nightmare.
How are the garage and driveway and all the paths of ingress and egress if they start having mobility problems?
How will you bathe them?
Once you do all the math of all the home modifications it takes to let someone to age in place for anywhere from 1 year to 10-- often the math does not work out. $60,000 in remodels-- that the next guy is not interest in-- is $500-$5000 a month towards the next place.
Really consider places that are already laid out and build right, like independent living apartments. Grocery delivery, housekeeping and hair cuts are all worked out.
Move them in there with minimal junk and it will go much better.
You can keep the family homestead with a young adult living there, as you strip it over a few years.