It’s actually just all about her, when I was a child she would not want me to go out with my friends but stay home with her. When I became a teen she was many many times so mean to me because I wanted to be with my friends. I'm all she has in life. I moved her two years ago to America to be closer to me and I fly to see her every month, plus talk to her on the phone every day but it’s so draining to hear constantly how much she misses me and loves me and why can’t I be with her in xmas. I have to put my foot down and say no Mom, I need to be with my kids and husband who by the way she hates my husband, says he is the devil. It’s so so draining to have to hear the drama all the time of how much she loves me, does anyone else have this, it’s just really all about her !
So I would just say: stand your ground. And whatever you do, however sick she gets down the road, DON'T MOVE HER IN WITH YOUR FAMILY.
She sounds very selfish at best. This usually only gets worse with age and illness.