I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
MIL won’t let a walker in the house . She is stubborn but I believe still competent to make decisions . Therefore, I won’t feel responsible when something bad happens .
Need,
you are right about them using shopping carts as walkers . Why not ? They aren’t walking as stooped over . It’s probably more comfortable . Why don’t they just make walkers like the smaller shopping carts that aren’t long in the front ? Nobody walks inside those walkers like they are supposed to anyway , they all have them out too far in front .
It’s interesting to see some older people shopping. They use their shopping carts as walkers.
That’s why they shop in Walmart and Target.
They no longer shop in stores that don’t have shopping carts.
I like that ! So far MIL hasn’t used us as her walking stick. But I’m glad you taught me to say “ I am not a …..…”. She clings on to furniture and wall surfs inside the house .
She uses a cane when she goes out but only because she absolutely could not walk without it in an open space with nothing to hold on to . I can tell she couldn’t walk without it because she is putting almost all her weight on it. (Her left leg can’t seem to carry much weight anymore). A cane is not meant for that ( hence the many falls when she doesn’t keep the cane perfectly upright causing it to give way to one side and it and her fall over like a tree). She is also very hunched over at the waist . She needs Tiny Tim’s crutch , or a good walker . We assume that once she gets upstairs she crawls over to the bed to use that to stand up .
It’s very sad how stubborn she is despite all the times she faceplants on the sidewalk .
Start practicing now for the next visit 'I am not a stair lifter'.
l've had to add 'I am not a walking stick' to my collection now that BOTH Mothers need one. One refuses to consider getting one, the other has one but often refuses/forgets to use it.
"I don't need one!" as they clutch at furtniture or cling onto somebody else.
Hmm, maybe I will suggest they CRAWL everywhere 🤣🤣🤣
I did some balancing exercises earlier so that may have been part of the problem. ⚖
I like Skechers (Go Walk) shoes for comfort.
When I was at the college we all would have sore legs the first week back after summer holidays as the floors there were concrete too and we spent a lot of time on our feet teaching. I guess I'll adjust or wear shoes with thicker soles.
Need - same for your hubs grandmother. In some ways you have to admire their spirit.
Oh my gosh! Too freaking funny! 😁
My husband’s grandmother refused to move out of her large two story home. She also refused to wear ‘old lady’ shoes!
So, she would climb two flights of stairs in high heels! How the woman didn’t kill herself falling down the stairs is beyond me!
Here goes . Many of you know my FIL died the beginning of last month . MIL lives 4 hours away . We have been for years telling her to put shower grab bars , use a walker , move or get a stair lift etc . All of which she refuses . We believe she is still competent . Ok people , remember this important detail …… MIL BEAR CRAWLS up her stairs .
Today DH called his mother because he needed to know the exact date that his parents’ divorce was final ( 30 years ago ) for some paperwork for FIL’s estate to be settled . ( FIL’s copy along with a lot of other important papers have been MIA since before DH was POA). MIL said she would immediately go upstairs to get that paper and that she knew exactly where it was . She said she would call back . I was listening to DH’s side of this short conversation at the very beginning of our walk for exercise …….
DH and I walked 3 MILES . DH’s phone finally rang and DH said to his mother
“ How many flights of stairs did you climb ?” She said just the one . ( she only has one fight ) . DH asked her if she found the paper right away . His mother said yes .
The old me would have been driving out immediately to assess this situation because it took her so long to get up the stairs . Today all we could do was laugh . We were already planning to go in April for her birthday……..( sooner if needed).
#1 Filling out in detail the comment card from the hospital. I put it in the mail today. At first DH was like "let it go," but he agreed with me when I said "how else would they know they erred unless told?"
#2 I have an appointment on Tuesday with my PCP. I will discuss it with her then.
#3 The new package of dressings came from Amazon today. I was able to shower after DH removed the hospital dressing and he said the wound looked better. Need, thank you. I am told not to apply the A & D ointment while the dressing is on.
#4 The 3" gel mattress topper is enroute.
It’s hard , but try to file it under “ I tried”. And try to enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Gosh, that’s frustrating! What is your next step? Did they recommend anything to you?
You definitely should see someone who specializes in wound care. My mother’s home health nurse was excellent! She specialized in wound care. She ordered specific ointment which was paid for by Medicare. It seems like she ordered two different types.
I wish that I could remember the names of the products. Mom died several years ago and I can’t remember the name of the meds that she ordered. I think mom had to leave it on for an extended period of time.
Perhaps you can get your primary care physician to write a script “ to be evaluated and treated at the wound care clinic “. Maybe that would work .
Listening to a kitten purr is so very sweet! I have always been a cat person. I hate that I am horribly allergic to cats, dogs, and many other animals and things.
Thank you, too, golden and Alva. Bad migraine starting. God is mad at me. I strongly advocated for myself, Alva. They almost saw the not so nice side of Ll.
Cats are curious creatures!
They just said on the news that the guy didn’t die but is in grave condition.
It’s scary to think about bullets going through the window and killing somebody.
I don’t own a gun. I have friends who are single and have bought guns to protect themselves. They go to target practice on a regular basis.
The EMTs would tell me that sometimes they were afraid to enter homes in fear of being shot. Sad, isn’t it?
I think it’s because I’ve been purging and reorganizing things . She’s nosey about what’s going on .
Need, crime is bad in a lot of places that did not used to have a lot
Crime is out of hand. A carjacking bill is up for debate where the sentencing will increase from a two year jail sentence to a five year sentence. Both parties are supporting this bill.
I hope our new governor can do something about our crime. He has a background in law enforcement. We’ll see.
I certainly hope that you will find relief soon. When our feet hurt, everything hurts!