I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Sending more support your way I'm glad you could share with his DD too. ❤️❤️
My stepdaughter is a lovely, non histrionic young woman. We've known each other since she was 7; I was an administrator at the day camp she attended for many years. My relationship with her predates my meeting her dad by about 15 years
And we've been down this road before, when my DH had emergency surgery for an aortic aneurysm.
Thanks for all your support!
Trust you to know what is best for letting daughter know.
If this is sepsis (wasn't aware of this) it is so iffy and a moment to moment thing. They just must find out where the bleeding is coming from and it must be stopped. They are pouring in a lot of blood. I hope hubby stays in ICU.
Barb, dependent on how this daughter typically "is" I am telling her if she is any way reasonable. You will be blamed if she isn't told. I would tell hubby she has a right to know that this is serious. If she isn't a reasonable type then don't and you can always tell her "Your father didn't want you told and I honored his wishes in that; I am doing best I can. Sorry". I have two daughters. One I would tell no matter what "he" said and one I would not. Because in the latter case it could make trouble for all involved in this fight.
I am so sorry. Fight for him to stay in ICU. As long as these bacteria causing sepsis are kept at bay with antibiotics he has a good chance. But organs can shut down fast with sepsis if antibiotics don't work and I feel his daughter should know. Encourage her not to fly in as he's uncomfortable and there's nothing she can do to help that. Mostly, do it YOUR WAY.
Are you getting rest? Do you go home to sleep? How far from hospital are you?
I personally think that when you are looking at a bleed you can't stop let alone identify and sepsis that a discharge planner showing up is kind of ludicrous, but that's me. I am certain well meaning. I know she doesn't mean "today!"
Yikes. Truly thinking of you so much.
First, I'm so glad for all I've learned from all of you over the years.
DH got another unit of blood overnight. CT with contrast will be done today to localize whee the bleed is. Hoping that the dye won't damage his kidneys, which are not up to snuff yet, but improving. Still in ICU.
Just talked to the Nurse Manager who came in to discuss discharge. Only because of all of you do I know that THE MINUTE you are admitted to the hospital, Discharge Planning is involved in "next steps."
I know some folks get outraged by this; my DH is still in ICU and you're talking discharge?!?! But it's in CMS regs and that's how it's done. They will refer him to our preferred Acute Rehab facility and we'll see what the Physiatrist says.
Sorry to hear DH is struggling . Not sure what to say about daughter . You don’t want to upset DH , maybe hold off a bit longer and when he’s getting better you can get him to give you permission to tell her that he had a complication but is on the mend. 🤷♀️.
Take care of yourself too.
The Beeps! I dread the next stage of health'care' when the robots will learn to talk.
Maybe for variety & for nostalgia for human staff, a new voice will activate per shift. A sweet friendly kind one, a curt professional one that can spit out facts & list all side effects. Maybe a gruff one.. like a Dr Who Dalek: 'Occluding! Occluding! Straighten your arm. Straighten your leg.
But if he needs to be there, well be there he will.
Thinking of you Barb. Thank goodness sepsis did not take hold.
A hard one indeed re the daughter.
Maybe check in with DH in a quieter moment & ask if a simple text update would be ok. Eg This happened, getting some treatment at X hospital. Expecting to be home (date). I usually go VERY short with Serious, Stable or Doing Well.
Tough call. Her demeanour? Big emotional response type or "Thank you for keeping me in the loop." type? I think I'd tell her if she is the latter, letting her know that he wasn't ready to tell her/worry her, whatever. Maybe tell her he'll call when he feels like discussing the details.
Hugs to you.
At his request, I haven't told his daughter (almost 40, 2 littles kids, just married this summer). She knew about the original procedure. She lives a plane trip away. Do I call/email her? I asked yesterday if he wanted to talk to her and he said no.
"I'm Just TRYING TO GET COMFORTABLE HERE!!!"
You can't make this stuff up.
So glad that you got your husband to the hospital for help. Prayers sent for a full recovery.
Hugs for you!
And then we will talk about rehab.
I am flummoxed by the robot and want one to yell at N. just for the fun of it.
I have seen the automated robots in restaurants on television shows. So, I am assuming that Koreans don’t tip the robots! Hahahaha 😝.
I fell in love with robots when I was a child watching The Jetsons cartoons. I wanted a Rosie to clean my room!
I hope your hubby will start to feel better soon and can return home. Have you been able to get any rest?
My daughter tells me that restaurants Korea use robots as waiters.
That certainly is an interesting use of tech. Does he shout back at it? I bet some people do!
DH has had 5 units of blood. Hemoglobin still isn't stable. Still haven't ruled out an active bleed.
He has a robot watching him! It shouts at him when he tries to get out of bed. Excellent use of tech!
Thanks for the update. Hope you rest well tonight and all the meds are doing their job for DH.