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Barb, I'm so sorry to hear this. I pray for a successful outcome for your DH.

You've been having such a rough time lately. Hang in there!
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Oh Barb, so sorry. Hope DH is doing much better. Prayers are going up.
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I'm so sorry, Barb. What a rough time. He's in the right place, thank goodness. I hope things get fixed and hubs stabilizes. 🙏
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Barb, continued prayers for you and your dear hubby.
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Alva, I'm so touched! Thank you all so much for you good thoughts!
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Barb,

Hoping all goes well for your husband and that both of you are able to relax soon.
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Hang in there Barb. I am so sorry this is going on, but so thankful you got into the hospital when you did.
I waited around for your update and will sign out until tomorrow. Know you will be in my heart.
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Oh . Geez Barb . Hope he recovers quickly .
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Ok, a little update. We are in the Surgical ICU; DH has a large retroperitoneal hematoma and came into the hospital septic this AM.

Infection markers are trending in the tight direction. Waiting to talk to the surgical team. He has had 3 units of blood and is on 2 antibiotics.
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Barb 🙏
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Way,

Me too!
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Need,
Oh dementia dirty . I’d bet money on it .
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Way,

Her mom has been driving her crazy. Something has to change. I have a feeling that she’s going to be researching facilities soon.

Her mom used to be very clean and dressed nice. Now, she’s fighting my friend on bathing and washing her hair. Something is off with her mom.
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Need ,

Stubborn woman with cognitive decline ?
Or bored and manipulative and wants daughter to beg her to leave . Or both ?

Like Burnt says, complaining can be a sport for some .
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Oh my gosh! My friend just called me to tell me that she had a gas leak in her home recently.

Her mom has been living in her home since her stepdad died. She said that they needed to evacuate the house until the gas leak was fixed. Her mother tells her, “I am not going anywhere. I intend to sleep in my own bed.”

My friend told her mom, “Well, unless you want to die, you are going to check into the hotel with us.”

My friend says that her mom is extremely stubborn. She is stubborn but I told her that she should speak to her mother’s doctor about cognitive decline.

It’s crazy that her mom wouldn’t want to evacuate a home that has a gas leak.

I felt sad for my friend having to fight with her mom in order to keep her safe. I am hoping that she will think about placing her mom in an assisted living facility.
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Oh Barb.
So sorry he had to go to the ER but hopefully he (and you) will emerge victorious from all complications and that the universe will choose today please.
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Oh Barb - Prayers for whatever is wrong to be righted soon and for DH to feel better. Keep us updated!
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Oh, Barb. I got THAT wrong.
OK. So sorry.
Watching for updates from you.
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Alva, this is my CURRENT DH, not ex!
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Barb,
Thoughts with you and you ex. Will look for your updates. So sorry for these complications, but this is the right place to be.
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Barb,

Oh no! So sorry. Sending hugs to you. Please keep us posted.
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Sigh. In the ER. Please think happy thoughts. More later.
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Barb, thinking of you and your DH this morning! Hope the pain is under control...
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Barb: My goodness! So sorry that your DH is in that amount of pain. I hope that he can get some relief.
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Barb,

Hope your DH gets comfortable and not wobbly .
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Barb - hope DH gets through this to a better place soon. Prayers
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Barb, Hope your DH feels better soon.
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Barb,

Hoping for a better day tomorrow for your husband and rest for you!

Hugs!
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Sooo, I'm sorry your in such a a bad place.

I am in the thick of caregiving my DH; his surgery, in which they robotically removed a stricture from his ureter and reattached it to his bladder was successful, but he is in loads of pain, and more worrisome, his blood pressure dropped very low tonight, leaving him clammy, faint feeling and wobbly.

I suspect it's the anti-spasmodic they are giving him to keep his bladder calm while it heals. Oh, and the catheters...

A better day tomorrow, please!
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Barb, by not asking your ex hubby you are expecting him to be a mind reader.
We tell people who we are by what we do for them, and whether or not we expect to be recognized and to have them do things for US when we need it.
If we do things for them, and don't ask for their help when we need it, then why would they help us. They think we are fully capable and they are happy to have us help them but they don't think we need them. We are too "together" to need them.

I had to be trained out of caregiver to the entire family by some shrinking by the professionals. I think you may have read about my girlfriend with her spoiled partner she did everything for. When she needed the partner she disappeared. As her shrink told her "YOU broke the contract. It is YOUR fault. The contract was that you did EVERYTHING, and then you got sick. It's your fault. You broke the contract."

I wish humans were a better animal. We aren't. And we need to tell them as you told your hubby "Look, I was there for you and you weren't for me; don't expect me to continue to be there".
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