I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Yes , I noticed the whoops kitty looks like my cat .
Thanks. And yes he has comorbidities . He was failing prior to coming down with Covid and we were losing sleep waiting for the call saying he has to go to the hospital and then SNF. FIL would have been irate if he got kicked out of AL . I’m actually a bit surprised FIL was on board with hospice . It was the back pain that had him lean that way . Interesting that he chose hospice ( at AL ) over going to SNF.
You don’t have the ‘kitty’ by your profile. Many of us are experiencing technical issues. You’re the first one that I see that doesn’t have the kitty face.
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The Whoops kitty sort of looks like your kitty.
Yep! Looks like technical issues are around now. A few people have posted about it. I have a kitty too.
Thanks. DH is very quiet this evening .
The in person caregiver meetings that I attended were held at an assisted living facility.
A couple of the attendees had husbands who were in the assisted living facility. The facility did as much as possibly could to keep them there.
When the care exceeded what they could provide the men had to move into skilled nursing facilities. It’s sad but that’s how it usually works out.
They settled in after a while. It’s definitely a step down as far as amenities go but at that point they can’t participate in anything anyway.
I am sorry that your family is going through this situation.
I don’t think he’s going anywhere soon unless something catastrophic happens .
He is still getting all his meds , he had extra Lasix given and he’s taking the antiviral . He mostly wanted pain relief from the back pain . He is also bedbound for now . So his choices were to go to the hospital ( which would have lead to a nursing home ) or stay at AL on hospice . We will see what happens. He always has the option to change his mind which is a possibility . I could see him wanting to try to get PT to walk again , which I do not think would be successful . He would have to come off hospice for that , however I doubt the doctor would give him an optimistic prognosis about him ever walking again . He was in bad shape before he got Covid , we were waiting for the call from AL saying he needs SNF .
I have horrible allergies so I think I will buy one since you have seen good results.
I’ll check out the YouTube videos too.
You should watch videos on how it is used, it is pretty simple but does take a bit of practice to get it right. I still get some water coming in my throat but it doesn't bother me. I don't swallow it and that takes some practice.
I think you will like the end results.
Good luck with it.
Maybe your FIL is approaching the end. I am glad that hospice is involved. It is so hard to watch a parent decline. How is your husband holding up? I know that he must be exhausted.
My mother was ready to go. She was tired of suffering. She was content in her end of life hospice care home. She received excellent care. They kept her comfortable towards the end and that’s all we wanted for her. She had suffered enough.
I have been suffering for several days with sinus congestion. I am thinking about buying a Navage.
Don’t laugh but years ago when I tried netipot I couldn’t get the hang of it. I felt spastic. I kept spilling it!
It’s my own fault that I am sick, because we agreed to watch our daughter’s Siberian husky. I love him and I have snuggled with him far too much! I am allergic to cats and dogs. I took Claritin but it hasn’t helped much. Maybe I will add Mucinex.
My daughter has been in Colorado for two weeks. She flew home last night. She Ubered to her house and is picking up the dog after she gets off work today.
Do you use your Navage often? Thanks for the additional information. I will look into that.
I highly recommend it.
Do the research on how to use it with your own solution, it is so expensive otherwise.
My allergies are driving me crazy!
So, he’s pacifying his dad.
It kind of reminds me of when I was a kid and my mother said, “We’ll see.” Oh my gosh, I knew every time my mom used that phrase, it really meant, “No!”
Yep, it’s a stall tactic.
DH knows better. But doesn’t always act .
Instead he just stalls, tells his father he will get to it.
Then turns to me and says ,
“ I’m done dealing with this S4!t “
His other go to answer for when he doesn’t do something ( even if it will make it easier for all ).
Yep, one phone call to the assisted living facility is a lot easier than running over there.
Your husband is lucky to be married to a logical woman!
Thanks
DH is just as ridiculous. He’s complaining to me about his father calling him about his hearing aide. He told his father he couldn’t run down tonight .
I told DH when his father calls, tell his father to use his call bell. DH replied to me with his go to answer “ I’m sick of this “. And added , “he won’t use the bell”.
Sheez. It was clear DH wasn’t going to do anything so I called the AL. Otherwise FIL would call DH about it again.
Sorry about the text that your daughter sent.
That is so hard. Your FIL is exactly where he needs to be. He could never survive on his own without help.
I am sure that you and your husband thought that it would become easier when he was placed in assisted living.
It isn’t any easier if he still depends on y’all for help. Grrrrrrr…
So I called and asked the nurse to look for it when she brought him his meds , or to send and aide in to look for it .
“ he likes to be doted on “.
He has staff to dote on him where he lives . He also has activities , and meal time for opportunity to make friends there and have a social life. They also bring in church services , and most likely have some outings he can go on out to restaurants , stores , perhaps the movies or a play , library .
My FIL refused to make friends where he lives , that’s on him . He partially did it to try to get us to dote on him more. He demanded we take him out to meals and wanted us to take him on vacations where he wanted to go . Being in AL was beneath him . He still complains that he’s “ in an institution” , nothing we can do about it. FIL has dementia, 1/2 the time he doesn’t think he belongs there. We encourage him to go to activities , make friends and then we change the subject .