I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I really try hard to hold onto the good stuff but find it hard sometimes.
It’s true the grandparents can push away the grandkids with their behaviors. My adult kids do not visit my mother in law because she grills them about their lives and criticizes and lectures them . She is wanting great grandchildren now. My kids would very much prefer if she was not interested in their lives .
My bro's kids have rarely been in the same room with my maternal GM except for a few hours during family get-togethers. GM is often bossy and cranky when they're around and shows zero interest in their lives or getting to know them. They're all young adults now, and maybe she'll have a great-grand in the next couple of years, but there's no relationship there because why would there be..? They know her as someone who is mostly standoffish and sometimes mean.
You'd think grandparents and great-grandparents would want to "act nice" during visits for the younger gen's sake they don't see very often, but it's like some of them can't help their cranky, self-absorbed ways.
I'm sorry. I've seen how hurt my mom and aunt have been because of my GM's demands and angry remarks, which are always directed at them because they're the closest, easiest, and most familiar targets.
The eternal question for NPD types: "Why can't you be nice...?" lol It's beyond them, I guess. (((Hugs)))
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Despite being sick, I finished a good part of my school work for this week, and my chest congestion is down from yesterday and is a less ominous color. Grateful.
Hot and sour soup is wonderful! I like it very spicy!
Feel better soon.
Feel better soon. What a lovely friend to show you love and support in such a useful way.
Thanks for helping keep me sane right now, all. Thanks, Send. I've ticked most of those items. A couple of hot baths a day, or at least one, sounds helpful and comforting. I put mag salt and a few drops of eucalyptus oil in the water. 🙏
Ali,
Clean out that humidifier-it is only clean for about two days.
You can feel the slime, use vinegar, rinse well.
You are using distilled water only.
For hot steam, take a shower.
Wipe surfaces and door handles with Clorox Wipes.
Stay home. Don't go out.
Use a little Mentholatum under your nose, and on your lips (or Vicks Vaporub).
Use a Manuka Honey cough drop (with Zinc would be good).
When taking Vit C, if you skip or stop, you do get cold symptoms.
Have some chicken noodle soup, okay?
Disclaimer: My advice in no way means you should not be seeing a doctor.
When the phlegm gets colored (a bit yellow?) see the doctor two days before that happens. Go to Urgent Care.
I too defended the staff by NOT always running to admin . I only fought the important battles. My mother was nasty to the staff. If she got some comments back I figured she deserved it . Next time Mom tries to guilt you , you tell her “ I didn’t make you old , I can’t fix old” . This is what I resorted to and it would render Mom speechless .
As far as Mom threatening to not ask for anything . “ Fine Mom, have it your way “. My Mom pulled that too , to try to make me do everything .
My mother never said please or thank you her whole life either.
When she’s like that change the subject or cut visit short. “ Sorry mom, have errands to do “.
In a normal situation a daughter would get upset and run to complain to the NH admin about it. But knowing my mother as I do I lay the blame at her feet. She is a nasty person. Therefore I’m not doing anything about this.
This little tirade happened during a visit with my daughter and grandkids, who traveled 3000 miles to visit their grands.
I might add that there she rarely said please about anything to me when I was a kid, only issued demands. I guess the aide got insulted and miffed. I can’t say I blame her. She doesn’t get paid enough to eat s***t.
Im sure the fam are wanting to come back again real soon for a repeat performance .
I can’t stand her.
Way, my bedroom humidifier has been running 24/7 for the past few days. It's a cool mist type, and I hope it's effective enough. Those types don't seem as effective to me as the "warm steam" kind.
And thanks, all, for humoring this next late-night study-break slightly delirious thought here... lol
But really! I have to say that I have a new understanding and appreciation of why expectorants are so helpful in OTC meds! lol I never gave them much thought before when they came in a packaged med like Tylenol Cold and Flu liquid or some formula like that. The special feature of this latest sick is definitely the phlegm furballs I'm coughing up! lol Thank the lord for expectorant!
I found out on Friday that a coworker had this same funk two weeks ago. And now I think I gave it to my roommate because he's feeling lousy. Seems it's very contagious. I've never lost my sense of smell before, and it's completely gone... which is creepy. I can't smell perfume, scented candles... nothing. I can still taste things.
I'm going to wear a facemask as much as I can when out or at work for the rest of the winter. It's not just about preventing catching something; masks make the air I breathe in more warm and humid, too. I remember reading a study done in a hospital that examined environmental factors that contributed to illness spread, and they found dry air was the top factor.
That sounds so frustrating. I understand and I've had similar weeks! I also think the complete reliance on tech hasn't made things better in many ways. I hope you were able to get some heat in your home. (((Hugs)))
Ali,
Talk about bad timing. Pls take care of yourself. I'm responding to your request for prayer and praying for your full and very quick recovery! (((Hugs)))
Way,
Prayers for your husband's recovery too! My man doesn't handle being sick well either. It seems like most of them don't.
I hope your problem is resolved soon!
After calling at 8 AM when our thermostat wouldn't turn on. After being assured someone would be out between noon and 4 PM. The unit is only 3-4 months old! Of course I questioned if they could come earlier after telling them we were senior citizens and we couldn't get warm. Of course they couldn't because they had the repair people booked out all day.
I called at 4:30 PM when no one came. I was told "the System is down". I asked what the gentleman meant. He repeated "our System is down". I asked what they did in an emergancy? He told me "we don't have anyone on site right now". I asked again what he meant. He repeated the same phrase. It seems they cease to be able to function without the computer! They sent everyone home!
Evidently, as soon as the "system goes down" they cease to work entirely! I've never heard of this in my 74 years! I advised the young man I would appreciate being the first in line in the morning, that I was angry and found all his answers unacceptable. I had an appointment and didn't have time to listen to more excuses and left.
My husband, even having Alzheimer's, was able to locate the business card of the supervisor who lead the team that initially installed the unit. He assured my husband there would be someone out within 30 minutes. It streatched into an hour later after I got home. I got on the phone, again speaking to the young woman I had spoken to earlier. She assured me the "system" was back up, apologized for the inconvenience.
I couldn't contain myself any longer. I asked her, "what did you do in the olden days before the advent of computers and cell phones"? She responded, "I don't know madam, I'm only 32"! I then asked to speak with her supervisor after asking if he/she were over 50. She informed me she didn't know if the supervisor was over 50 but was in a meeting. I could only hope the meeting was due to the "system" and their dealing with it wasn't acceptable. I called back and politely and informed her the supervisor hadn't called back and asked her to relay this information. "In the olden days we worked with a rotary phone or a touchtone phone, pens, paper and 'walkie-talkie'". " I'll pass that on", she replied. I doubted she had a clue what I was informing her of how things used to be done.
During all of this I was also securing vehicle insurance after finding out after 5 months the previous company cancelled us. Why? It seems when I offered to pay for a full year, when they entered the trransaction to my bank, it didn't go through. I knew they had to have entered a wrong routing number and never bothered to try again. We how have insurance and was assured I would not be told that after payment was made and then ask for more money as the previous company had.
I fear for these people are the ones going to be running businesses as well as the country. I can only say "I'm glad I won't be around to see what happens. My never-ending aches and pains won't be bothering me any longer".
8AM the following morning, nobody was at my house. I waited until 10 AM, and proceeded to call. This time I heard the ever resoning sound "our system is still down". This time it was a young woman. Explaining again this was the 2nd day and the 3rd call, that I was hearing that excuse.
Sounds miserable! Hopefully, you have been through the worst of it and you’ll start feeling better soon.
Hugs! You need your energy to finish up your studies.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻.
Take care . Plenty of fluids and rest when you can . Humidifier in bedroom .
I was whining on this thread about my cold-turned-sinus infection that dragged on for several weeks and only ended about 10 days ago. On Monday, I had a long day at work and by the time I left, I knew I was sick. My throat was so dry and painful. I can't take the dry indoor air this time of year, and it's common enough for me to get sick.
But I'm pretty sure I have covid, and I've had it since Tuesday. I took two home tests which were both negative, but I have no sense of smell. Besides being so tired and needing a lot of rest, I started a double master's course load this week. I still think I can do it, but this was a heck of a way to start the term.
I've taken Ethics before, so that class will be review for me. I can take a leave of absence from my job if I have to. I want to and can do this schoolwork.
But I better get over this sicky business fast. I had my flu and covid boosters about two months ago. I hope this goes fast. If you're a praying type, please offer up a few requests on my behalf.
I sure hope this is the worst of it. Everything in life gets put aside when you're this sick. And I've been back-to-back with several things all this Fall.
I'm taking 2-3k vit C per day. Just hoping so much this will run its course in a few days. Thanks for support and prayers. I need to turn a corner on this ASAP, and I'm fearful that being sick already so much, my body is just getting whomped. Boo. :(
He couldn’t even see anything . That’s the thing . He faints just at the thought of blood .
Oh gosh! Yeah, some men do pass out. Too funny!
DH fainted in the delivery room with our first before I even delivered . For the second they had me in a birthing room . I made DH sit in a chair in the back corner of the room behind my head and ordered him to not get up or to pass out this time. The nurse chuckled .
I hope your DH feels better soon. Don’t you find women tolerate not feeling well better than most men? I can’t imagine how they would handle pregnancy and giving birth! 😆 LOL
You’re right. Personally, I don’t believe anyone who claims that they heard directly from God. I certainly don’t believe someone who is claiming to be God.
Lots of people out there with mental illness who are totally delusional!
DH is sick , bad cold , Covid who knows yet . He is the worst with a man cold .
I can't imagine we would. We can't agree on anything, let alone who might be God.
I watched the crazy documentary on the cult in Crestone, Colorado. It’s a very remote area that attracts ‘new age’ types. This woman and her followers thought that she was God!
She claimed to be reincarnated many times. Very bizarre story, she died young, age 45. Her cult followers took care of her since she refused to go to the hospital for care.
It’s incredibly disturbing to see women and children were being preyed upon by monsters. Blaming the victims is disgusting.
As sounhappy has said about her situation frequently, “Let justice prevail.” No one has the right to take away someone’s dignity and self worth. Justice gives a person their self worth back to them.