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Barb,

Purifiers do help. Zyrtec did nothing for me! I have severe allergies, including dust and mites. I told my allergist that I keep my house clean. He said that mites can exist in a clean house.

I wash bedding in hot water frequently because dust mites are one of my worst allergies. I am supposed to have my pillows and mattress enclosed in plastic coverings. SureGuard is a brand of bedding encasement for allergy prevention.

Claritin works better if I am having a sneezing attack. I’m not exaggerating when I say that I have sneezed for thirty minutes straight before!

My DH looked at me early on in our marriage and said, “Honey, I hate to tell you this but you are not normal! Please go to the doctor. We should own stock in Kleenex!”

I went to the doctor and found out that I am basically allergic to everything! The allergy that bothered me the most was being told that I was allergic to my cat.

My doctor said, “Get rid of the cat or you’ll continue to suffer.” My response was, ‘Give me meds, Doc, because I won’t be getting rid of my cat. I promise you that I won’t get another cat after she dies.’

He paused for a moment and then said, “Okay, I get it. I have two cats that I live with and I couldn’t get rid of them.”
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Barb, I also would love to know what purifier for the air you have found that works well for you. Do let me know by pm or here. RealyReal, does the nettle not freeze our natural protective cilia in the nose? I always worry about natural treatments applied to the nasal passages themselves because in ER I saw some terrific nosebleeds resultant, most from simple drying out of the membranes. I love nettle! Must be the only living person. Initial contact with it has that sort of "sting" and then it feels just so kind of "interesting". Hiker in the past so am familiar with THAT plant, for certain. It makes a great tea. It makes a great pasta. In fact one of the BEST pestos I ever had.
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ITRR, I get the part about the colloidal silver spray... though I'm a ways from making it myself because I've watched the YouTube videos, and by the time I do that and dilute it in a nasal spray bottle, it seemed like a lot of work. I don't have room to store much. We traded some thoughts about colloidal silver before. I do think CS has a place in treating infections.

Yes, please, I want the information. Please PM or put it here, whatever you want to do. Thank you.
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Ali, thanks for the purifier info.

Have you ever tried Stinging Nettle? I used to get a LOT of sinus issues and it was ALL, according to the ENT, infectious allergies. Meaning my allergies blocked and plugged everything until infection set it. Fun stuff NOT! But, using stinging nettle has literally cleared that problem from my life.

I make the tincture, super easy and will share if you want. I, also, make my own collodial silver, super easy and super cheap, I recommend doing this if you can, I have the resources and info for the silver if ur interested. It costs pennies to make a $10 an ounce product and I think it works better because I cook it longer.
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You can reset the accessibility settings to default, try that Riverdale.
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ITRR, I use two Austin Air purifiers in my 1200 sqft place for the past six years, and overall, I think they work really well, but the filters don't get the majority of the "up to five years" they're advertised as. I get about two-three years of use before I notice some decline. I have some immune sensitivity and extra environmental factors, so my perception could be due to that.

Interested in Barb's input.
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Riverdale, I changed the colors by accidentally bumping blue man and something in that, took a while to get it figured out, just messed with the settings there until i fixed it. Have you tried that?
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Barb, can you share what air purifier you use?

Thank you!
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The colors are in black and orange. Don't know how to change that.
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Ali, I used to get sinus infections frequently. Was told, more than once to see an allergist.

Finally did. I'm allergic to dust.

Took Zyrtec for several years. Finally found a really good air purifier that filters most of the dust in my apartment. Gave up the Zyrtec. Haven't had a sinus infection in years.

Ymmv.
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*I just refreshed the thread, and I see 10 new MIL posts! lol I can't imagine having extended family that's dysfunctional. I have my own immediate fam and that's enough... :)

Send, I noticed the sinus blaster stuff has horseradish as a primary ingredient. That's interesting! I have wasabi powder, and I'd eat it plain if it would make me better. 😜

And as often as I've been getting problematic sinus issues the past five years, I need more tools, so thank you very much. I wonder if I have sensitivities from the "mold house." URIs (thanks for the acronym) have become a yearly occurrence for me. Colloidal silver spray worked well for me, but I'm out of it.

I ordered capsaicin & horseradish and colloidal silver sprays. Capsaicin & horseradish cannot feel good on one's sinuses, but neither does peroxide or what I've been dealing with for the past several weeks... and every single year in the past 5 years...

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I turned my paper in. I have more questions than answers, which maybe is the hallmark of a good education.

I'm in an applied behavior analysis MS degree. ABA is viewed as a limited-scope psychology methodology. However, relational frame theory and contextual behavior science are based on behaviorism's principles and came from behavior analysts Dermot Holmes and Greg Hanley. There's a lot of crossover in behaviorism psychology and its principles and theories to many different important and emerging modern-day therapies and applications. I see ABA as having relevance in a great many things, including behavioral gerontology, where ABA is currently used... but ABA's not used nearly as much as it should be in gerontology, imho. That probably has to do with learning theory and the fact that dementias significantly decrease learning ability.

If anyone's curious, I'd happily discuss these concepts as best I can. It's interesting to me. Thanks for the support. 💜
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Soun,

I had TWO MIL ‘s because FIL divorced and remarried after the kids were grown . His second wife is deceased but there are plenty of stories there as well mostly directed at her own adult kids and my FIL. We were careful and tried to stay under her radar for the most part . FIL sure knew how to pick them !!! Sheez!!
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Beatty,

Every family has some lunatics in it, right? Some worse than others! 😝
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What is WRONG with those women!! Gosh I am up to speed now & bug-eyed with shock...

Trying to stop relationships, saying a marriage is not legal, wanting to be in a delivery room, choosing an engagement ring.. they have ZERO respect that other people get to decide things for themselves.

I had one in-law that was upset with our choice of baby name (had wanted to use it first - we didn't even know). Another that dropped endless hints of what name they liked (was upset we didn't use it).
Just shows you can't please 'em all!

I was upset at both at the time but feel I got off lightly now!

I'm picturing all those MILs as female Foghorn Leghorns.
Puffed up loud-mouthed chickens 🐔
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Soun,

That would be a dreadful thought for some!

You sound like a reality tv show! Tons of drama!

I don’t know which television show has more drama, a soap opera or a reality tv show.
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Imagine polygamy and having several MILs.
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River,

Did you accidentally change a setting using the widget? That’s all I can think of.
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I thought Halloween was over. One comes to this site for consistency and relief. It took awhile to get used to the new font especially since the old one would pop up first. This is a color coded nightmare!!
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I read to my husband your comments about MILs and births plus the illegitimacy of your nuptials due to your lack of mass. While he was sorry to hear you are subjected to such rubbish, he admitted being relieved that his own mother and MIL weren’t the only difficult ones out there.
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Hothouse,

A Mass is not a requirement for a wedding. This is a perfect example of an overly zealous individual!

Personally, I feel like the couple should be married anywhere they desire! It’s their day!

Some people are insane!
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You can bet they would never have allowed their own mothers-in-law in there 🙄
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I cannot imagine a MIL demanding to be in the delivery room. What a total invasion of privacy.

Here's another one for you: Years ago my husband's brother and his wife regretted not having a nuptial mass when they married. They decided to have that mass and renew their vows, which was a nice thing to do.

However MIL began telling me that DH and I were not really married because we didn't have a mass when we married. We were married by a priest in church. Apparently it became not good enough. Told her it is legal in the eyes of the state which, when it is all said and done, is all that matters.

MIL also worried that because we did not go to church that we wouldn't be all together in heaven. Can I just say that spending eternity with my MIL would be my idea of hell.
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Anna ,
You were smart to not allow visitors . I wish I had done that . I did not know that my mother was going to come over so often when I brought the kids home .

I don’t understand mothers who demand to be in the delivery room . No way would I have wanted either one in there .
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First my MIL tried to get rid of me by telling my husband to date her best friend’s daughter because they were the same religion . Then MIL wanted to pick out my engagement ring , plan the wedding and then wanted a say in naming our children . None of that happened and she had criticisms for all of it . She didn’t like my ring , the venue ( we subsequently canceled ) was too small and not fancy enough , we eloped which she somehow perceived as embarrassing her in front of her friends , my son’s name was too common and my daughter’s name ( which was DH’s idea) was “too Christian sounding” . ( DH family is Jewish ).
MiL also wanted to take the kids to places for the first time , the zoo, the movies, a play, the beach . NOPE wasn’t happening . She said I was taking her rights as a grandmother away because I wouldn’t let her take them anywhere . I told her those “firsts are for the parents “ . We wanted to see our children’s first reactions to seeing animals , the ocean etc .
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Wow, I almost forgot about my MIL’s anger about not being allowed in the delivery room. Nor allowed to visit right after the baby was born. I made my own mother wait a week. No way was I going to look after or listen to either of those women until I’d had a chance to catch my breath.
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Wow yours sounds like a piece of work too.

MIL was something else . You could always count on her to say the stupidest dumbest most insulting thing at the most in opportune time.

It was an amazing talent. She’s gone now but those memories linger.
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Hothouseflower, do we have the same MIL? First she told me I was obviously unfit to be a mother. I asked why and she said it was because of the way I train my dogs. I pointed out that I train using positive reinforcement but stopped short of asking if she thought I should hit them, same as they raised their kids.

We told them I was pregnant in person (they were visiting) and was promptly informed that they would never babysit. Trust me, never left our children in their care.

My husband’s mother wasn’t any better than my own.
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Hothouse,
I’m not holding grudges . It’s just the things that MIL says are so “ different “ than a normal mother would say …that it sticks in the back of my memory and comes to the front of my mind when something reminds me and I just shake my head . That being said , I don’t put up with her nonsense either . I may get angry for a bit like the other night but then I brush it aside . It is much easier to brush aside because I never liked the woman to begin with . It was harder to deal with some of the things my own ( narcissist ) mother pulled and said even later when I knew she had dementia , because I loved her . Many others had even worse narcissist mothers than mine was . I did Ok dealing with Mom until she got dementia , and she got much more difficult and refused care , living in her own filth etc . But she’s passed at peace now . 2 days ago was 5 years.
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Way, Sounds like neither of our MILs had a filter. And they probably didn't realize that their careless statements would never be forgotten. I don't consider myself a grudge holder, but when something is said, it is just out there forever.
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Identifying with many of you, I was getting ready to share some things about my own mother, and Mil. The words they had said, the pain that it caused me.
I remember what they said. Fortunately for me, I had a good friend, about 12 years older, who was a compassionate mentor to me all through the hard times.

But then my dH walked into the room, bringing me a plate with a treat on it.
It was a ripened kiwi, cut into a flower. A beautiful green flower, with black seeds.

Oldies are playing on the Roku. What a wonderful world by Louis Armstrong.

I see trees of green
Red roses too
I see them bloom
For me and you
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
I see skies of blue
And clouds of white
The bright blessed day
The dark sacred night
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
The colors of the rainbow
So pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces
Of people going by
I see friends shaking hands
Saying, "How do you do?"
They're really saying
I love you
I hear babies cry
I watch them grow
They'll learn much more
Than I'll ever know
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
Yes, I think to myself
What a wonderful world.

Have a great day everyone! The sun is shining, fluffy white clouds outside.
77 degrees F.
That's where I will be.
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