I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Geez,
I didn’t forget my MIL’s many unbelievable statements over the years either . BUT she does !!
All she does remember is the times I lived my own life instead of doing it her way .
It should have been a joyful phone call not a discussion about day to day life.
Life went on afterwards and our relationship (both the good and the bad) continued but I never forgot it. I actually never asked her to babysit. I had other family nearby so it was not necessary to ever ask.
But it was a memorable statement.
My daughter is trying to keep her wedding plans small , but fiancé has a big family. Sometimes she tells me she wishes it was just parents , siblings , siblings partners and a very few close friends . Other times she says to just elope . ( I could see her doing this , like me she avoids confrontation in certain areas, and will fight to the death in a few others ) .
She bought her dress online , its at my house . They have not set a date . They both would like to not have a long time between setting a date and the actual wedding , mostly because fiancé thinks his mother will expect a large tadoo and will drive them crazy over wedding planning . The bride and groom prefer low key , without the big stressful windup ahead of time . We will see what happens . I’ll show up when and where I’m told .
But we are still happily married for 46 years now.
Out of all her SILs my mother bashed my husband the most before we were married. He’s now the one who visits her everyday when we are in NYC, even when I don’t go if you can imagine that.
My two BILs don’t go at all.
OMG ,
That reminds me of my MIL when my first child was going to be born . MIL was giving me the longest explanation about how she wouldn’t be around when my son was born because she had scheduled a trip with friends and she could not ask them to change it after she had asked them to schedule for the week after my due date to begin with .
I truly didn’t care that she would not be around, In fact I was glad . BUT…… she blamed it on me for “ missing my due date” !!!
She said had I given birth on time she would be in town but now she won’t be .
Again I was fine with it . My parents couldn’t stand my MIL either . MIL not being around would avoid potential running into each other at the hospital .
Then she added, “ besides babies are born everyday , I’ll meet him when I get back “.
Send , I know it’s not the same though , a wedding is one day . But it reminded me of this anyway .
Married now for more than 30 years, the parents of my 24 year old grandson, and she now claims I love him more than I love her!
All tongue in cheek, of course, but that "loving him"--I don't love him more than her, because I love her to the moon and back, but I sure do love him lots and lots and lots. And they both know it.
"Can't come, maybe next time."
Oh my gosh! Your MIL is a real piece of work!
My husband’s grandmother was like your MIL. She tried to invite everyone to our wedding. She was never a pleasant person. Ever!
It can be found on Amazon, in various formulations. This had horseradish as one of the ingredients.
My dH was improving, but needed to get to an event the next morning.
I bought everything I thought would help, plus this spray.
He had spent his two weeks sick, and was still in bed when this arrived, delivered by Instacart.
The next morning, he was healed, no sinus pain, cough gone, no nasal congestion.
My URI was behind his by about 3 days. So, I tried it, since I do not usually experience bad sinuses. But, I was afraid it would burn, or something. But the pain! The pain was gone, and after the second dose, I was well.
I don't know why we never try things that cost a little money, but we did order Zinc, Vit. C, Manuka Honey cough drops, Echinacea cough drops (did not like the elderberry), and stuff like that.
Once there is colored gunk, see a doctor for a secondary bacterial infection. imo.
You asked what my MIL’s reaction was to us eloping ….
Of course my MIL DID NOT see that HER actions were the reason we eloped . We were supposed to marry in June . We married in March . When DH finally told his parents two weeks later ……
My MIL asked if I was pregnant !
Between both our mothers I should write a book !!
I told my kids , I don’t care . It’s their day , do it their way , just don’t forget to invite me ! Lol. I agree with you , it’s the bride and grooms day ! The mothers should not even be speaking to the wedding planner .
Very smart to elope! What was your MIL’s reaction to your elopement?
So often wedding plans get out of hand. Weddings can become very stressful.
One of my friend’s has a daughter who is a wedding planner. She’s very good at her job and enjoys it. She told me that she rarely has trouble with the bride and groom. She says that the mothers are the ones who are often the most challenging ones to deal with.
I am grateful that my mom or MIL to be never tried to run the show. It’s the bride and groom’s day! Other people shouldn’t interfere in their plans.
Thank you . Happy Thanksgiving to you too ! You need to go to the doctor before that sinus infection goes to your brain.
Indeed my MIL’s view has always been twisted when it comes to how she thinks she conducts herself .
Perfect example…..She REFUSED to come to our wedding because we said she could not invite all of the 100 + friends/coworkers etc that she wanted . Too many people . She also did not approve of the venue we chose , btw she was not paying . She tried to strong arm us to do other things her way as well . We canceled the wedding and eloped instead . Best thing we ever did because MIL makes every party about HER.
Anyway she twists it around that we excluded her . 🙄☹️
Happy Thanksgiving, all.
I'll be alright, but boy, am I whiny right now. Still in final-paper throes, don't feel like I'm making much headway on it.
I thought this sinus infection turned a corner yesterday. Today it's back. I'll go to doc when I can, guys, promise. I just don't know when that will be.
Lol, just what I wanted to do today, head to the mall the day after Thanksgiving
Glad to to hear it’s going well . Looks like you have something to be Thankful for !!
Love the vegan idea !! 🤣😂🤣.
Happy Thanksgiving .
Thanks. You are right . A lot can happen in a year. I’m not so sure she would be well enough to travel a year from now anyway. We went and saw her last month . She looks terrible. She has CLL and is wasting away . She used to be a heavy woman . Her partner told us she doesn’t eat much anymore . Happy Thanksgiving to you too .
Very glad to hear your news. Happy Thanksgiving to you.
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I’m SoUnhappy, but I think I’m on the path to SoHappy. The court case is going in the right direction.
Tell your MIL that your entire family is going to give up meat for your New Year’s resolution so there won’t be any turkey on the menu. You’re not even going to eat any byproducts of animals because you’re considering becoming vegan! LOL 😝
I KNOW ! I was going to take a break , but had to come and whine !!! You can’t make this S4* t up !
I may just say I’m going away next year. The nerve ! What if I wasn’t going to cook next year ? She’s giving me a years notice that we and my children have to be here while she graces us with her presence. I can’t even sleep , I’m so pissed off !!!
There’s always a first, I suppose! I’m sure this was an unexpected surprise to say the least and certainly an unpleasant one for you. 😝