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Need. I’m going to go visit her today because she says I “ need to see what they are doing to me.”

I don’t know if it’s going to calm her down to go there so she doesn’t think I’m ignoring her , or if it’s going to agitate her because she’s angry because she thinks I put her “ in some place “, and she wants to go home.

Yesterday she tried to escape. The nurse called my nephew . He left work to go there to calm her down .
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Way,

Yes! Coffee is mandatory! LOL 😆

My husband said the same thing as you, that perhaps I slept funny. Who knows?

Don’t you wish that men could have babies? LOL 😆 I can’t imagine what my husband would have been like pregnant!

Oh gosh, I am so sorry that your sister is struggling. That’s so hard on both of you.
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I visited my sister on Saturday at the hospital ( she had back surgery ) . After I visited her she began experiencing delirium and doesn’t understand why she is there . She has been leaving messages on my phone the last two days saying that I “ dumped her there and left “ . This is the same thing my mother told me when I put her in assisted living . My sister also said that I should try to make things better for old people .
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Need,

maybe you slept funny with your hand under you ?

Pregnant. Lol😂😂😂😂

You are determined to muddle through for that coffee !! 😁😁😁Many would understand that . I’m not a coffee or tea drinker, but I have to have my one can of Coke a day early afternoon for the caffeine boost .
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So, I woke up this morning with my thumb up to my wrist hurting. The worst part is that it’s my right hand and I am right handed. I just took Advil. Hopefully, it will help.

I have no idea why it would be hurting. Could this be arthritis?

I don’t remember doing any awkward movements or lifting anything heavy.

The only time I’ve ever had trouble before was when I was pregnant and the baby was resting on a nerve which caused carpal tunnel in my left wrist. It was so bad that I had to take cortisone shots for awhile.

Lord knows that I am not pregnant at 68 years old! LOL 😂 So, I have a mystery injury. I went to bed around 10:00 and was fine. Woke up in this pain. I might go see if a hot bath will help.

I had to drink my coffee with my left hand this morning because I couldn’t hold my mug in my right hand.
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Bounce , being a nurse is what perpetuated my lifelong servitude to my mother . I wonder if she would have followed me out of state when she was in her later 70’s like she did , had I not been a nurse . She said I was the nurse so I would be the one to take care of her. My DH was very upset when my parents followed . We had moved because my husband’s job moved .
Not long after my mother died I gave up my ( part time ) nursing job . Mom killed it for me . I nanny babies because I enjoy it . It’s the opposite of watching decline . It keeps me going .
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Speedy recover for her, Way.
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Thanks Hothouseflower.
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Way, sorry to hear about your sister. I hope she recovers soon.
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Thanks guys ,

This is the only sibling I am close to . She almost died this past spring , she had delirium then also. She has a myriad of medical problems , 2 of which are rare .
My poor nephew has been running her to so many doctor appts . I’m worried about him . She needs assisted living but all she has is a SS check . She was never good with money and didn’t make a lot and had 2 terrible exes . Her only child (son ) took her in 10 years ago . He’s been divorced a long time , no children . He also has the rare autoimmune disease that she has. I know he’s been spending some of his own money on her too . They live too far for me to really help . I offered to come stay a while last spring after she came home from rehab to take her to some appts , but my nephew is adamant that I did enough for my parents and that it’s his responsibility .
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way: So sorry that your sister isn't doing well.
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Barb: So sorry for your foot problems.
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Way,

That’s sad. Hard for her and hard for you because we feel helpless in these situations.
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Need ,

she’s been calling and attempting to text all day . Not making sense .
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Way,

Ouch! I hope your sister’s situation improves soon.
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My sister had surgery last Thursday for compression fractures of vertebrae and is experiencing delirium right now . She’s a bad 68yo with multiple medical problems .
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To any of you with foot pain--

I went to my podiatrist today with a laundry list of foot issues, one of which is burning in my great toe.

He said that is likely compression is L4 and L5 discs as they terminate in or near the great toe. Who knew?
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Need Help,
Thinking of you this weekend as your join with family to mourn the loss of your dear brother.
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My whine moment today..I shared that my mom was in hospice under my care with a coworker who I also see outside of work. She immediately launched into what an honor it was to walk through hospice with her mom (for 1 month I think.) Her mom was an an exclusive facility that also cared for family members. She said when she went there to visit they would immediately offer to have her sit down and make her a cup of tea. She used the word “honor” at least 4 times and didn’t once ask what I might be going through.

For all I know this nice lady is on this forum. But from what I am living and what I read here every day, hospice care mostly entails toileting, hard work, sometimes demanding and unreasonable elders, family infighting, family wanting other family to pay for care, or take mom in, etc.

Maybe it will be an honor to hold moms hand when she takes her last breath. But in the meantime it’s messy, stressful, frustrating and just a lot of hard, unending work.
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Wow, that’s the first I heard of the earthquake. That’s my neck of the woods.

Sounhappy, vent away. Hope it goes okay for you.
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THANK YOU Need and Bounce, and everyone!

Need…just one thing.
It’s not that it’s a private matter. It’s a legal matter. Not allowed to talk.

I am allowed to vent.
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Pot rattler was big, and the epicenter was in Millbrae, CA at 6:38 p.m. Friday; and downgraded to a 3.7 from the reported 4.0 earthquake.
Near SFO?
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3.7
2 km NNE of Millbrae, CA
2023-10-28 01:38:31 (UTC)
11.6 km
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There were lots of big aftershocks following.

Much of S.F. land is built on fill.
What is fill?
Often, when we colloquially refer to fill around the Bay Area, we’re actually referring to two different things:
Artificial fill
Former or “reclaimed” marshlands and wetlands.
Artificial fill is land that was created by piling up soil, mud, rocks, rubble and dirt. In many cases, mud was pumped up from the bottom of the San Francisco Bay to fill in piles of rocks, then allowed to dry.

An earthquake in those areas could feel larger if the land was built on fill. Not sure, but an earthquake there could lead to liquifaction. Like said, not sure.
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Sounhappy,

That’s what I meant by saying that you were uncomfortable speaking about it, because it is a private matter.

I’m sure that this situation is taking a toll on you. I hope it’s over soon.

Vent all you want.
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Thanks Need! I’m not uncomfortable speaking about it. I just can’t talk about it: because it’s a court case.

Once in a while I need to scream it out (silently):

JUSTICE.

I don’t expect anyone to read my mind. I’m not writing this for others. I’m writing it for me.
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Sounhappy,

I respect your perspective on privacy and I do not blame you for not speaking about something that would be uncomfortable for you to share.

People have all sorts of craziness in their families. Some like you, are dealing with complicated legal issues.

We aren’t mind readers, so we have no idea what you’re going through. Whatever it is, I certainly hope that you find peace in your life soon.

It’s tough to wait things out, not knowing if, how and when something will occur.
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I see! I guess I hoped I would know more in 2 weeks. But nope. More time is needed. (I never said the court case would be over, is over, or will soon be over).

Concerns bullies.

I can’t give details. It’s a court case. There’s no way I’m writing about it.

I don’t write “justice” in order for other people to understand me. I’m not writing in order to be understood. This is the whine section. I’m writing for me. Every once in a while I’m desperately crying out by writing here, JUSTICE.

So I write it again: Justicccccce.

The story is so crazy, it’s totally unbelievable.
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Alva: Thank goodness for nothing big on the Richter scale.
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From you, Sounhappy on Oct 11:
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sounhappy
Oct 11, 2023
In about two weeks, I’ll know if JUSTICE IS REAL…or just some myth in fairytales."


That was the second time you said two weeks. A week later you mentioned "some weeks". So this has been ongoing for a while, and it has varied. But there are never details, nor any speaking of what this is about other than "bullies" and a "court case".

It's all a bit confusing. And yes, indeed, court cases often do go on and on and on. I don't know that just repeating the word "justice" will bring on that nebulous outcome, but I am certain we all wish for justice these days, on many accounts, and for many people in our own world and in nations as a whole. Would that wishing made it so!
But I am certain that you, by now, have our most FERVENT wishes of us ALL.

As to my own whine of the day, we just had a good little pot rattler shake! Don't know what on the scale yet, and it was quite short, but I think this little tremor might have taken down a shelf or two somewhere.
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What is your court case regarding, Soun? Can you tell us in broad terms?
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Thanks everyone! I appreciate your support!

I thought I had written, in some weeks, not 2 weeks. Maybe I said I’ll know more in 2 weeks?

Court case on-going. Court cases can go on a long time.

JUSTICE!
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