I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I hear it takes time to adjust to retirement . ((((Hugs))).
when I was young I worked nights , took care of my kids during the day. Took a nap after dinner. I used to say “ sleep, what’s that ? “
Former nurse here . Most of us have bad sleep hygiene . I left nursing 4 years ago after 35 years . I still can’t go to sleep at a decent hour .
Surgeons are supposed to do a sponge count after surgery, but it seemed that they did not do one when your friend had the surgery. This was definitely a malpractice lawsuit that your friend should have pursued, but I guess the statute of limitations ran on that one.
I am not familiar with your situation but I hope that it will work out for you.
Hope your son recovers quickly from Covid.
Crazy situation with your husband. It’s frustrating to say the least and certainly frightening.
I think of my younger brother’s wife who wasn’t informed of her breast cancer (first mammogram.) She did sue and won over a million dollars.
By the time she found the lump she had stage four cancer and had to undergo double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery.
Sadly she died with lung cancer later on due to smoking.
We considered canceling trip . We just want it over with . We only go about 3 times a year , and we avoid going during snow season .
Alva ummm.. that wire pulled out picture you painted NOOO (but would be a very good retirement boosting lawsuit).
Way, sorry to hear about your son's covid. Trip cancel??
He was supposed to cat sit for me this weekend while we go check on MIL 4 hours away .
I feel bad that my son is ill , but I don’t feel bad that now it will cut our trip in half , so we can get back home . The cat is fine by herself for a day .
I don’t even know what I will say to MIL anymore . It’s the same selfish Cr4p everytime . “ I’m not getting any younger , I want great grand children “. “ When is K…… going to get married , so I get to go to my granddaughters wedding , and it better not be another destination wedding .”
(My son had a destination wedding ) .
Apparently my children are not fulfilling their grandmother’s wishes. How dare they live their own lives !!!
Oh and of course DH will try to talk to her about POA etc , and needing a walker etc …….just for her to refuse . She’s only 86, she says “it’s not time yet “. Not to mention she’s a terrible driver , but that’s not new. She’s the kind that causes accidents , but isn’t in them .
Unless something happens suddenly ,she will be the last of our 4 parents to be ripped out of her house for refusing to have help come in . Why can’t just one of them cooperate ?????
I am certainly glad they never did an MRI, Barb, with that wire left in unbeknowst to anyone. I cannot imagine what the results of that would have been. This is definitely medical negligence that has resulted in the need for another surgery. One would think it worthy of a suit, but, oh no. Suits only go forward when there are DAMAGES, so hubby could likely only get a lawsuit if the wire had pulled his genitalia right off during an MRI.
I had a friend who had surgery back in the 1970s. She had huge digestive issues for nearly 50 years. Tests did not reveal anything. She tried everything, medication, gluten free diets, checked for allergies, stress relieving exercises. You name it. It changed how she could live her life.
Last year she had a blockage and was rushed to the hospital and a CT scan was done. It finally revealed a foreign body in her gut. She had emergency surgery to remove a sponge from the surgery done in the 70s. (That was a NYC municipal hospital, not world class but really????)
This egregious mistake messed up her life for 50 years. She chose not to sue because she did not want to waste her precious time doing it. Not sure I agree, I would have been out for blood.
May your DH recover fully and never have another stone.
Yep, it appears medical errors are still one of the leading causes of death and that is so very sad for those that put their trust in doctors and medical workers. So happy for your family that you are not now a statistic.
That's why I don't go to doctors unless I absolutely have to! I've had some bad experiences too.
When my mom had a cataract removed they scratched her cornea. I've had mistakes made with my own healthcare as well.
Granted, nobody is perfect but when you become a doctor you should try to be as close as you can to perfect in my humble opinion.
Sorry you had a rough day.
Those of you who've followed along for the last several years know that I call DH a "medical lemon". Things are in the wrong place. Things get missed. The "oh, that NEVER happens" happens.
So, the very nice and very young Endourologist who took out a batch of stones a month ago said to us today--"now that we know what we're dealing with, this'll be much quicker than last time."
Last time was 90 minutes, 3 times longer than usual.
When he said that I thought, "Doc, you've just jinxed it."
He came out 2.5 hours after the start of surgery. Turns out that a wire got left inside DH at some point during prior surgery. It was encrusted with kidney stones. They actually did imaging in the middle of surgery to figure out what the heck he was tugging at.
This is at a world class NYC hospital. Prior surgery was at an even HIGHER class NYC hospital.
Going to bed now. It's been a really long day.