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Pam,

Have fun at the craft fair. I love going to those. I helped my mom when she participated in them. Mom sold tons of merchandise.
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No sleep last night, as I did not take my Ativan ( took it for a week at night and it helped, but makes me nervous to take it too much) But I did go to exercise class, only 6 of us were there. At the SC only 5 cases so far, no new ones since the weekend. Got my phone alittle more set up. Decided not to stress over it too much. I have a friend coming in on Friday to go to a huge craft fair thing in my town, and they are calling for lots of rain,, I don't want to go in that case so I am watching the weather. I have gone before in the rain and it was a mess of mud and dodging umbrella's! Plus I get DDs puppers tomorrow as she is going to Nashville for 5 days. So I am hanging in there, but just ready for things to get better. Oh yes,,, and still no MC/SS letter. I am over that! I may call again tomorrow
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cmpockets: I am sorry. Caregiving is hard! Hugs.
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I feel like I am on one nerve every day trying to help take care of my 79 year old father. I feel trapped and I am in over my head trying to help take care of my uncooperative dad.
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I surely do identify with the techie issues, Pam. Remember that Geaton is our Iphone expert and has offered help if we need it with that, but she surely is right that there is not options now other than to move into the 21st century. Just last month I finally gave up my little Jitterbug Flip after realizing that everyone iphones and androids were easier to use than my flip phone. I am moving right along and intend putting in my Alaskaair app soon enough!!

As to Covid I just heard the good news that SF is staying WAY low in cases, that it isn't showing appreciably in our waste water yet and that we had only two deaths in September and very low hospitalizations. That said I am like the only living girl in SF City who is masked on the bus anymore, so am finding those numbers amazingly low.
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hubs and I had to get new phones today,, I am already frustrated ( not that it takes much some days) this is going to take a few days to figure out, and I cant add my yahoo accounts for some reason. So I may stop back tomorrow for help with this. we really needed new phones but boy do I hate the learning stage.
and exercise class at the SC was cancelled as they had 5 cases of COVID today so they are disinfecting the place. Luckily I have not been there in over a week. Guess its masks again this week!
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It's okay for my mom to interrupt me and get aggravated at me, but not okay if I do either of those things to her. I should note she shows more emotion when she's aggravated, but I'm more mild.

She interrupts me all the time and won't stop despite me giving some hints. That's become my biggest pet peeve.
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Matty I am working with a broker, and did everything she said, and helped with. Began in Aug 1 and it was to start in Oct, but they said my birth year was imputted wrong by them! Oh well, hopefully it's getting fixed now, the lady at the local SS office said they are just really behind.
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Thank youuuuuuuu.
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Sounhappy,

Whatever it is , I hope it gets better soon ! (((Hugs)))
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Not doing well. I hope to turn things around. Please let justice win.
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First, make sure you start the Medicare application months (not a few weeks!) before you'll actually be eligible. Go to a licensed insurance agent who specializes in Medicare Advantage plans and let them help. Social Security was a non issue, I don't understand what problems anyone had. Just do everything early.
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Pam, it was messy for my husband to go onto Medicare and we even had a broker helping us. This is why you don't want the government to manage anything -- they are horrid at it and has no incentive to improve. I'm going to transition to Medicare in November so hoping it goes "less messy" for me. Good luck with yours!
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Pam,
I’m not there yet . But have heard the whole process setting up SS and Medicare can be a pain .
Cross fingers it gets straightened out soon. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
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Way it sure seems that way, and I am only retired for 1 1/2 month!! With pretty good health. It was quick and easy at the local office, so now we'll see how it goes.
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Pam , Depending on how many health problems a person has , just keeping up with the health insurance tasks, reviewing billings, statements etc . , can turn into a part time job during retirement . At least that’s what I hear from some of my retired friends .
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Here is my whine, or more of a scream! I applied for SS and medicare on Aug 1, retired on Aug 23. My work messed up my retirement, but got it fixed so that I got a check in late Sept and now in Oct,, so all good there at last. My SS has been "pending" since then. My supplement insurance has gone through and I have paid the premiums the last 2 months, but since I have no medicare number yet its all delayed. I called SS 3 weeks ago, was told its being worked on, no problems, should be done by end of Sept. Still "pending". I'm not so worried about the check as I am about the health insurance! So today I called my local SS office,, seems that my birth year was imputted wrong!! She fixed that but they need to see my original Birth Certificate. why did no one notify me? So tomorrow hubs and I are taking my BC in ( luckily don't need an apt) and then she can finish it all up, so I should be good to go in a few days!! I have been worried silly about this, hopefully it will all be fixed in a few days. But really, if I had not called when would they have notified me? And I know I am lucky I can go without the payment for a bit, but alot of people can't!
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It’s a crazy story. So crazy, the details aren’t worth it. I just want justice to win.
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Sounhappy, I know I have read your previous posts but don't remember what you are going thru. Tried to lookback, but your "following" is closed. Besides showing posts you have commented on it also shows posts you have made. And you have no profile.
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In some weeks I’ll know if justice won. I’ll let you know.
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Please let justice win.
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Thanks!
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Sounhappy, whatever awful thing you’re facing right now, I wish you to succeed.
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Not a whine, just a memory.

I met a lady at a walking club. She decided to befriend me as I looked new (I was on holiday). She had moved to this lovely seaside town 10 yrs back. Her Husband & her had always planned to do the sea-change at retirement.. but the years ticked on, he sat in his chair, too comfortable to move.

She warned she'd go.
She left for a holiday.
She took the time to think.
She walked into a real estate office & rented a small house.
She returned to the city.
Told him her new address, packed & left.

6 months later he arrived, suitcase in hand, pale, lonely & wondering if this tanned, fit looking beautiful lady would let him stay?
A happy ending. 😊

(She told me it would have been a happy ending for her either way, whether he came or not, she was living her dream 😂).

I mentally took note & thanked her. I said it was a real pleasure, not often had, to meet a guardian angel who had just handed me my future life!

"What we want is on the other side of fear". Can't remember who said that, but I like it.
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It’s so rare to see justice win. Pleasssssse let justice prevail.
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sounhappy: You're welcome.
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Llama, thank you. It’s a crazy, crazy situation. The problem isn’t caregiving, but bullies in my “family”.

Please for once, let justice win.
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I’m reframing the rant I just wrote and deleted.

It’s football season in the US… if you have armchair quarterbacks and post-game analysts second-guessing your actions as a caregiver, if they haven’t ever suited up and been tackled, please change the channel.

Do not give them space in your already crowded life.

Do anything with more value, like watch Sharknado or clean the toilet.

Self? Are you listening to this excellent advice? Cuz football isn’t our jam anyway, and those 🤬 people have taken too much time and energy out of what we get on earth. I love you, NOW PAY ATTENTION.
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@Mamacrow and hothouse.
It can't last forever.
((((Hugs))))
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Mamacrow, My mother is just like this. I can sympathize. I hope I can get her into the NH so I don’t have to deal with her as much as I do now. I cannot stand it anymore.
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