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venting,

You’re smart! We form habits, good ones and bad ones.

I head straight to my coffee maker in the morning! I would hate to think about if I couldn’t wake up to my mug of coffee! Okay, two mugs! I can’t stop at only one mug.
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“When I’m stressed, I eat. I don’t know why so many of us do it. We know it’s bad.”

I do it because I’m not very smart.
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I’m male. Another thing I noticed is the crazy amount of weight I put on. When I’m stressed, I eat. I don’t know why so many of us do it. We know it’s bad. I never used to turn to food to solve my problems. Then again, I didn’t really have problems before. Caregiving, on the other hand, is just problem after problem.
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I care for my elderly sister. I only noticed today, that my world is getting really small. I spend so much time helping her, that I see less and less other people. Very often she’s the only person I speak to. That can’t be healthy. I need to widen my world.

Caregiving has become my whole world.
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I know that my jandal-wearing years will eventually end (and hopefully not from a TBI). Right now I have a pair that are so comfy and cushy... they're hard to give up. Easy on, easy to keep clean, inexpensive.... I have to wear something cushy in my house since I've had plantar fasciitis on and off. My eldest son has a masonry business and we often watch him operating his Bobcat and using his chainsaw wearing his jandals (sans socks) with a ciggy dangling from mouth (don't get me started). Please, no lectures about either of those poor choices... if "informing" him would have changed his behaviors, it would have worked a loooooonnnnngggg time ago. FYI jandals are also handy to throw at uppity children when you're too lazy to chase them.

For the record, last year my Mom fall in her own bedroom and cracked the back of her head open requiring stitches. She was wearing her LL Bean loafer-style slippers. She attempted to turn around but I guess the slippers have a sole that gripped the carpet a little too well. Just saying that many types of shoes are out to get us.
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Speedy recovery Cat! :)
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Sandles are more dangerous than high heels. They should only be worn at the beach.
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Thank you my AC friends.
I'll never wear those shoes in Target again! Geaton u reminded me of something. Several years ago my late father's sandals got caught on a throw rug& he flew head 1st into a door frame. Split his head wide open, needed 18 staples. I was very glad he didn't have any internal brain injuries. I tossed the rug & his sandals in the garbage. I come from a not so graceful family. Lol
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Cat, feel better soon...so sorry for your fall! My "chanclas" (aka "jandals" aka Japanese sandals aka slides) have tried to murder me on several occasions as well...
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Ouch. Feel better, Cat.
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Cat those crocs are evil!!
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Cat: Feel better.
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Cat,

Ouch! Sorry about your tumble.
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Hope you recover fast Cat!
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Ooops I did it again! Went to Target this a.m. & the front of my Crocs tripped me. Fell on the hard, over waxed floor. Of course on my right side again. Bruised but didn't break anything
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Sometimes I wonder:

There are so many people on the forum with so much knowledge and wisdom. I wonder if you put all that into ONE person, what would that caregiver look like?

Would it be a caregiver who continues to sacrifice themself, but who finds ways to make it less painful? A sort of band-aid approach.

Would it be a caregiver who completely stops sacrificing themself, and has as a condition that any solution must be a solution that doesn’t in any way sacrifice themself? To be as little involved as possible.
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Pam,

That’s terrific! My grandfather had a truck and a Caddy as well. My brother and I loved riding around with him. We did get in trouble for playing with his push button windows. We had the roll down windows in my dad’s car. So, push buttons were new and fun for us. LOL 😆
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NHWM I love that car, it reminds me of my parents every time I drive it,, and I sure could not afford one these days! So it to me seems like a last fun gift from them. I "bought " it from them at "fair market value" when they moved in with me, because they wanted it to drive them places. And they loved every minute in that thing! My Dad always had a pickup truck as they lived in the country, but they also had a Caddy from the time they both got college degrees and "moved on up" from thier beginings,, both first in their families to graduate from college, move away from the small town they grew up in. Caddys were the car to own if you were moving up at the time. When Dad first was getting ALZ he got into his head that the sports model was the one Mom needed,, and she agreed. It was a learning curve as its got alot of "extras" their previous models didn;t have, and they had alot of fun in it! So lots of great memories for me. I'll keep it until it dies, and my DD borrows it sometimes when her car is in the shop,, so it's a win win situation for all of us. Thank you!
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Pam,

Enjoy tooling around in your luxury sports car. How fun!
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I’m so ready for fall! It’s unbearably hot! We are hitting record breaking highs and have another heat warning for tomorrow. I’m sick of it! I have been making pitchers of iced tea daily.

I just saw on the news that just across the Louisiana line, there is a grass fire that broke out near the interstate in Mississippi. They closed the interstate in both directions.
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I’m in a GREAT mood today!




(Just kidding. I just wanted to see what it feels like to type that).
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pamz: I'm glad also that you didn't break down with your auto in Baltimore city!
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Woke up this morning ready to go to my last Dr apt before I retire.. my sweet ride finally passed out,, 13 YO luxury sports car that was my parents and still looks new ( haven;t changed the body style much) and very low mileage.. Luckily just a battery,, seems it was the original one so I got lucky. I am planning to drive it alot more once I don;t have to go to the mean city, and save the miles on my SUV. Then they had me for a medicare first apt,, nope, still on hops insurance, and running it down to the wire thank you! Had a small spot frozen off my forehead, got my Mamo scheduled before the insurance ends,, So that was all good! ran some errands, picked up some refill meds (running that ins down!) and then home to relax a bit. So I guess only a small whine,, glad it died in the garage and not in Baltimore!!
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I’m in an even worse mood today. More bad things, more problems to solve (my life; nothing to do with my mom, but kind of connected because I would have solved them years ago, if I hadn’t been helping my mom).

Anywayyyyyyyy, Beatty, here’s some more humor, similar to the previous one:

“A thousand-mile journey starts with one step. Then again, so does falling in a ditch and breaking your neck.”
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Venting, loved your knocked down, so stay down & nap joke 😁💛

I may not be knocked fully down but low & inactive - Imagined myself a round stone on the beach as I refused to get up on time today. Just laying there peacefully, imaging the wind sweeping over me & the sound of the waves.
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I also have more whining to do:

On a positive note:
I solved my mom’s HUGE problem some days ago. Someone in health“care” had (in a mean way) messed up her care.

Solving this, also immediately lifted my writer’s block. I was working on a report, nothing difficult, but had writer’s block. I didn’t realize my writer’s block was connected to the stress of helping my mom.

On a negative note:

There must be all sorts of other unknown effects on me from the stress. I keep saying this, but I’ll really try to take better care of MY health. But the only way for me to do that, is to take a break from my mom’s problems. I’ll do that.
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I do have some jokes today:

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life. But so was yesterday, and look how that turned out.”

“When life knocks you down, stay there and take a nap.”
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I have no joke to tell today. Nothing funny.

But my life’s a joke right now. In case anyone wants to laugh. 🥺

(Ventingisback)
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MD,

“How's the teeth filing going?”

Very sharp.

”They'll get what's coming to them one way or another.”

So glad you agree.
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NH your brother is pretty clever. Great way to scare away solicitors! I have a friend who is very verbal about his political opinions. It can be annoying sometimes.
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